You Should NEVER Get Serious With Your Rebound – Here Is Why


After a breakup, some people may feel inclined to jump into a rebound relationship, despite the potential consequences. While rebound relationships can be enjoyable, they are not intended to be serious. Unfortunately, I've witnessed people who have become upset when their rebound partner ended things. This shouldn't come as a shock- the relationship was never intended to be a long-term commitment. Before making any hasty decisions, it's important to consider the following reasons why rebound relationships are not meant to be serious.

2. He's too similar to your ex

I understand that you may want to provoke feelings of jealousy in your ex by getting involved with someone who resembles them. However, it's important to consider that if the relationship with your ex didn't work out, it's unlikely that a relationship with someone similar to them will either. Instead of fixating on your ex's preferences, it may be beneficial to have fun in the short term, but ultimately seek out someone who is completely different from your past partner.

2. The attraction is just temporary

It's natural to believe that your rebound is superior to your ex, as your ex is likely viewed as the enemy at the moment. However, this attraction is temporary and will fade as you move on from your past relationship. It's similar to wearing beer goggles- the haze of hating your ex can make the rebound appear more appealing than they actually are. Once this haze dissipates, you may realize that the rebound is not as amazing as you previously thought.

3. You just don't want to be alone

Breaking up can be tough, especially after a serious relationship, and the thought of being alone can be unbearable. However, jumping into a rebound or a new relationship isn't necessarily the solution either. Rather than seeking a new partner, surround yourself with supportive friends who can help you through this challenging time. Avoid the temptation of seeking comfort in rebounds, as it may only leave you feeling more alone in the end.

4. You're not over your ex yet

If you find yourself mentally comparing your rebound to your ex, constantly talking and thinking about them, then it's likely you're not over your previous relationship. Rebounds can provide temporary relief from heartache, but it's important to give yourself time to heal before pursuing another relationship. Rushing into a rebound can lead to it being unsuccessful, as you may not have fully let go of your previous relationship.

5. You need time to heal

After a difficult breakup, it's crucial to allow yourself time to heal before jumping into another relationship. Engaging in flings may be okay, but serious emotional involvement may be too much to handle. It's important to give yourself the necessary time to process and recover from the previous relationship. If you find yourself getting emotional even while watching a sappy movie, it's a sign that you're not yet ready to start dating again.

6. Rebound relationships move too fast

When it comes to rebound relationships, there's often no opportunity to get to know the other person gradually. Rebounds may resemble one night stands in some cases, and moving too fast can lead to the relationship burning out quickly. Although the sex may be enjoyable, a fulfilling relationship requires more than just physical attraction. It's essential to take the time to get to know the person before committing to something serious. After all, do you even know their last name yet?

7. It's just a distraction

Rebounds can serve as a temporary distraction from the pain of a breakup. They can be likened to a favorite drink, offering a buzz of excitement and a brief escape from reality. Rebounds can make you feel attractive, confident, and alive, providing a much-needed break from the heartache. It's important to enjoy the temporary distraction, but then be prepared to move on and continue the healing process.

8. You don't really care about him

While it's easy to believe that you're deeply in love with your rebound, it's possible that you're actually in love with the idea of being in love or the way they make you feel. It's important to ask yourself how much you truly know about your rebound and whether you're willing to go out of your way to do nice things for them. In reality, the desire for attention and feeling wanted is often the driving force behind rebound relationships. However, these relationships are typically selfish in nature, which isn't a recipe for a successful, long-term relationship.

9. You're still hurt and confused

After a breakup, it's common to feel hurt and want your ex to feel the same way. You may believe that a rebound relationship will accomplish this, but the pain and confusion of a breakup can lead to poor decision-making. In this state, it can be difficult to even understand what you're feeling. It's not fair to drag someone else into the middle of all this emotional turmoil. It's best to avoid anything serious with a rebound and focus on healing yourself first. Ultimately, this is the best approach for everyone involved.

10. Someone's bound to get hurt

It's important to consider whether you're truly ready for a rebound relationship. If you're not prepared to view it as a temporary fling, one or both of you may end up getting hurt. Immediately after a breakup, there's often a significant amount of emotional baggage that can make it difficult to handle anything serious. In this scenario, the other person may resent the fact that you're not over your ex, and they may ultimately feel used. Moreover, if you're still hurting, another breakup will only exacerbate the pain. It's essential to remember that rebound relationships are fleeting by nature, and it's important to approach them with this mindset.

11. It'll just lead to another rebound

Once you break up with your rebound a few weeks or months later, the cycle often starts all over again. You fall for someone else to help you get over the last rebound, and it becomes an endless cycle. This can be a painful and frustrating experience for everyone involved. It's important to set a time limit for your rebound and walk away when you're done to avoid getting too serious. Giving yourself a break between relationships can also help you avoid falling into this cycle in the first place.

12. It's all about you

When you're in a rebound relationship, it's easy to become focused solely on your own needs and desires. You may not be thinking about your rebound's feelings, or whether they're also hurting from a recent breakup. The primary goal is to make yourself feel better, and perhaps even make your ex-partner jealous. While it's natural to want to feel good after a breakup, this kind of selfishness is not sustainable in a real relationship. Ultimately, it's important to recognize that thinking only about yourself in a relationship is not a recipe for long-term success.

Rebounds can be tempting, but it's important to be cautious and not get too involved. While they may provide temporary relief, they can lead to more pain later on. It's important to be mindful of this and approach rebounds with caution.