When you're young, you enjoy playing the field. You like having a variety of guys vying for your attention. But as you get older, it's natural to start desiring a real relationship. You start becoming picky about who you let into your personal space. Every man is measured up against your own personal checklist.
What Do Women Want in a Man?
You heard me right, gentlemen. Women have a list that you're being compared to. If you're lacking, you can forget ever getting past the introduction phase. Now each woman is going to have her own tastes and specific qualifications. But there are 11 things all women look for.
If you want to catch a good woman, you need to be able to check these boxes. These aren't hard qualifications to pass. Your dream girl doesn't expect you to be perfect. But she does need you to have some qualities if you want to have a future with her. Keep reading to see what I mean.
1. Financial independence
You don't have to be rich to impress a woman, but you do have to have a real job. Ladies will not be impressed with a man who doesn't cover the check and still has to hit his parents up for money to cover his bills.
Not only should you be able to support yourself, but she's going to want to see that you're financially responsible. Women are not impressed with men who live paycheck to paycheck because they don't know how to control their spending habits.
Not everyone has book smarts and that's okay. Women don't expect you to be Albert Einstein. But she will expect you to be able to have mature, intelligent conversations from time to time. Even if you're not the smartest kid in the class, you should still be able to sustain a conversation about current events, your personal opinions on a subject, or the meaning of life.
The topic won't really matter to a female. It's how you feel about the subject that's going to matter. She wants to know your thoughts and opinions. Conversing is a way to get to know each other. Even if you've been with someone for twenty years, there's always something new to learn about them.
3. Street Smarts
Some people have book smarts, while other people get their education out in the world. Women love a man with street smarts. She wants to know that if y'all end up in a shady part of town, she doesn't have to be scared. You're alert and watching and you'll protect her from any danger.
This does not mean take a woman into a dangerous neighborhood just to show off your manhood. Being tough is only sexy when it's necessary. If you're getting into an unsafe situation just to impress her, it's most likely going to backfire. Women are more impressed when you use your brain to avoid iffy situations - not confront them.
4. Social Life
This may come as a shock to some of you, but women like men that have an active social life. The secret to a happy relationship is that you each have alone time. It's good to have a break from each other so that you can be alone with your own thoughts.
If you're a loner who never wants to hang out with friends, it can put a strain on your relationship when she decides she wants to chill with her group one night instead of being together. She can feel guilty because you're at home alone instead of having fun. A good relationship needs to be balanced.
Honesty is a key ingredient of all relationships. When you care about someone, you want to do everything in your power to keep your partner happy. No matter how tough a situation is, you're going to tell the truth, because lying will only make things worse.
One lie is enough to ruin an entire relationship because you'll always have to come up with new lies to support the original lie. And once you start, you can't get out without admitting the truth. When you tell a woman you've lied to her, she'll never trust you again. And you can't have a relationship without trust.
6. Shared Sense of Humor
Men, if you want to know the secret to winning a woman's heart, it's making her laugh. Women love a funny man. The best relationships are the ones where you get to laugh and be goofy together. There's no judgment, no uncomfortableness.
Before a woman decides if she wants to give you a shot, she's going to see if the two of you have a similar sense of humor. It's hard to be a smartass who has the emotional maturity level of a 3rd grader when you're dating a prude who doesn't laugh at fart jokes.
7. Sex Appeal
There is a difference between having sex appeal and having good looks. Sex appeal is more about attitude than appearance. Women prefer men with swag. They know how to dress to impress. You walk with confidence.
You should talk like an adult instead of using slang and improper speech. It's sexy when a man knows what he's got to offer and he puts it on display without shame. But be humble about your assets and honest about your flaws. We all have them.
Women love a man with manners. If you want to impress a female, pull out every gentleman move you know. Open doors for her. Pull out her chair. Bring her flowers and chocolates. Hold her hand.
Don't just show respect to her but to other people as well. Ladies should always go first, no matter where you're at. Say please and thank you. Be polite and respectful to your elders. Always offer to pay, even if she doesn't accept.
9. Good Mental Health
Before you get involved in a relationship, it's important to make sure that you're mentally stable. It can be difficult to have a healthy partnership when you're suffering from conditions like depression or anxiety.
It's even harder if you're hiding these conditions from your partner. There's no shame in having a mental condition. It happens to the best of us. If you can't be honest with your partner about what you're dealing with, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them.
Women prefer men that don't mind showing affection. If you're not the type of guy who likes to hold hands in public, I'm sure you can get your girlfriend to be okay with this. As long as you compromise and have some intimate, non-sexual contact with each other in private.
The sweeter you can be with your ministrations, the happier your girl will be (most of the time. Not all women like lovey-dovey gestures.) Forehead kisses, taps on the nose, and hugs from behind are all things that make women weak in the knees.
11. Strong Family Bonds
Women look at your family ties when deciding if you're good dating material. She's not going to want to walk into a lot of family drama that she might get tangled up in. But she's also not going to want to get involved with a guy who's under the thumb of his parents.
Having a healthy relationship with your parents, siblings, and/or extended family shows a woman that you're family-oriented. When a woman is looking for a potential husband, she's going to appreciate a man who doesn't shy away from settling down.
Be All the Man You Can Be
So now you know the 11 things you need to have if you want to find the woman of your dreams. There's plenty of competition out there so use your newfound knowledge about what women want to get an advantage over everyone else.