There was a time when it was unthinkable for a woman not to have the ultimate dream of starting a family. But that’s no longer the case, and experts argue that they are better off for it.
Apparently, family drags you down when you could actually be out and about enjoying your independence with friends. Besides, you can focus your money on fun experiences instead of school fees for your children and other endless financial demands they put on you.
I’m neither married nor a mother, so I can relate. But I know a lot of moms out there who argue that their kids are the epitome of their joy.
And so, in light of this new discovery, I’m left wondering – are they being honest? Or are they saying that because society expects them to?
That is why we should turn to an expert.
A professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, Paul Dolan claims that evidence shows that the things that have traditionally been used to measure success do not always have a relationship with happiness. This is especially so in the case of marriage and child-rearing.
He said that married couples only admitted to being happy when the other spouse was in the room. But when alone, they said that married life was miserable.
The study also shows that men have it better in marriages than women do, and they actually benefit from it. But women don’t enjoy these benefits. In fact, when women get married, their life expectancy drops in comparison to those who don’t get married and rear children.
Apparently, men risk a lot less to start families. But women have to put everything on the line to start families, which is why unmarried women are much happier than they are.
However, being single is not always the key to happiness among women.
There is a lot of stigma related to being single and without kids, and that can make these women feel isolated, which can make them sad. This is despite the fact that studies suggest that unmarried and childless woman are happier.
In any case, the study comparing levels of happiness between the married and the unmarried only proved that childless and unmarried women were less likely to report being miserable than their married counterparts.
This was observed when both the married and the unmarried women were queried about their levels of misery.
When you are 40 years old and childless, the society assumes you just failed to find the right guy.
But then again, you could also end up with a guy who makes your life worse.
But at the end of the day, there are some pros and cons to both sides of the coin, married or unmarried.
You have to decide for yourself what works best for you and what doesn’t so that you make a choice that makes you happy.
If you feel you can still be single and happy even with all the stigma around this lifestyle choice, then, by all means, go for it. But if you know your idea of a happy life involves starting a family, then being childless and unmarried will bring less joy into your life than a married life would.