The world faces rapid changes in almost all areas of life, including dating. People have gotten accustomed to meeting through the Internet. Michelle Thomas took a chance and went out with a single dad she met on Tinder.
Their dinner was excellent, especially a walk and a farewell kiss at the train station. The date looked perfectly normal that day, yet tomorrow changed everything. Michelle was stunned by a text message from the man who was so kind and caring yesterday.
The text was so utterly disgusting that she published it for everyone to see. She did not hold back in her refutation of his revolting statements. Assuredly, this story got viral, and Michelle received support and many dating offers.
Her blog entry was named Tinder Date.
It started with Michelle telling readers that things were excellent, as the two had dinner and then "strolled arm in arm on the South Bank." They kissed, and the following day the man named Simon wrote, "I adore your company," but things won't work out.
Why? His mind "gets turned on by someone slimmer!"
He admitted being shallow, but it would have been fine if only he had written things wouldn't work. Simon wrote he was "hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality," but "I can't say the same about your figure."
Simon then said they "would inevitably end up in the bedroom." And then told Michelle he "genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I'm trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead."
He did not know when to stop. Simon further wrote that "I'm a man… With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man, I'm sure of my own body and its needs."
Michelle's reply to body shaming started with "Dear Man I Met On Tinder."
She told him that it is normal not to be attracted to anyone. However, she explained that the message was "uncalled for" and nothing short of "sadistic."
Michelle admitted she felt bad for every woman since "it doesn't matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you're a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable."
She sent him a message that "I look like me, and I like myself," adding:
"You may think all my profile pictures are "FGASs" (That's Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl. Because men only ever use candid, brutally-lit, unfiltered pics)." Adding, I describe myself as a woman who loves pizza and include links to my Instagram page, where I have the #everybodysready bikini shots I took on my 30th birthday."
Michelle told the man she showed the message to her friends, who shared her shock and even " embarrassment on your behalf."
She told Simon she is working on taking off 20 pounds, but that does not mean she cannot enjoy her body as it is.
Michelle made an excellent point, explaining that "the real reason I'm responding so publicly is that you have a 13-year-old daughter. A talented illustrator who collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible."
"I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem."
She finished a message by pointing out that his representation was not honest: "You're not 5'11"."
The 30-year-old ended by telling Simon to kiss her "unmarriageable arse."
And that's how you deal with people who don't know when to quit. A simple "sorry, but I don't think we have enough chemistry" would work.
Michelle Thomas is a published writer. Simon, and those who think they are being honest, but are merely hurting others to justify their actions, are losers.