We all have that one "beautiful" friend. And if you happen to be that one in your friend group, you know it is not all that great.
We cannot choose our genes or be forced to dumb down ourselves for others. Similarly, we should not feel pressure for being blessed in any department because we were born a certain way.
We cannot change many things, from fundamental, like skin color, to more superficial, like our looks. Of course, beauty is only skin deep. Or is it?
Being The "pretty Friend" In A Group
Too much attention can lead to jealousy.
Even if you think you are full of flaws, if you are the one always getting compliments, things turn complicated soon.
Case in point, fashion assistant Lily Pitfield from London. She opened up about being the "pretty friend," and it is not pretty at all.
Being In The Center Of Attention
Lily Pitfield's group of friends was normal until she was around 18.
Some of her friends refused to invite her to parties, and others were scared when she was single. Of course, the reason was jealousy.
That is how her friends have "opted to end friendships."
Even if it sounds vain, losing friends feels awful.
Lily talked to The Sun and explained how it all started, this vicious, superficial circle that brought her grief. She said:
"I was at a club, and a man sent over a drink. I didn't do anything to suggest I was interested in him, so I was really shocked. I waved and said thank you and was genuinely chuffed."
At first, it was a "confidence boost."
Price Of Beauty
The blonde beauty felt better and realized that being born pretty comes with many perks. Lily Pitfield had no trouble passing the bouncers and did not have to pay for drinks.
She even got invites to spend time on yachts. She spoke about one particular experience:
"In 2016 I was in Greece when the owner of a superyacht spotted me on the beach and invited me on a cruise. The whole day I was showered with amazing food and drinks."
He wasn't after anything in return, he just said he hoped me being there would attract the 'cool crowd.'"
But not all attention is wanted. As you grow up, you realize that most of it only causes headaches.
In Lily's case, the price was friendship.
"I've lost some pals in the past because they didn't like me being the center of attention, even though I really didn't want to be."
Friends Or Competition?
Lily stated that many of her friends did not like that they did not get the same treatment as her.
This "caused a stir with my friends as they don't get the same treatment, but I can't help it."
Yes, beauty privilege is real, but it all comes down to how you look at yourself. Lily added:
"Some refused to invite me to their birthday parties as they were worried I'd steal the limelight."
She soon realized that "girls can be super mean and b*tchy. It's frustrating because I'm kind, goofy, and humble and was raised to be beautiful inside and out."
She pointed out that her family and real friends remind her to be grateful. Beauty fades, but friendships can last forever!
Girl power, ladies.