It's very natural to yearn for a long-term committed relationship. We want that special someone who is always there during the bad and the good times.
All relationships ebb and flow, with natural progression and milestones, even if you are unaware of them. Some new relationships fizzle out rather quickly.
If you've been looking for that one person for some time now or have gone through a string of bad breakups, it is easy to blame yourself. But, in truth, relationships are akin to little fires that eventually burn out, so there is no need to play the blame game.
The truth of the matter is that new relationships can end for many reasons. They can also end at any time, though most end in their early stages.
Below, you will find some of the reasons couples break up after such a short time. Keep in mind that as few as two of these problems can lead to the failure of a new relationship.
1. You Were On The Rebound
Nothing will shake your confidence quite like a breakup. Moving on from something that brought you hope and happiness is difficult. In some instances, a level of bitterness remains, and possibly the need to prove yourself.
That's how some people find themselves in another new relationship. Rather than focusing on your happiness, your pride makes moving on a competition against your ex. Even if you never mention your ex, the failed former relationship hangs over your head.
The new beau competes with the past relationship, which is unfair to both of you. To you, this new relationship has to be the best one yet, no matter what. Realistically, that's not how things work out.
Rather than jumping into a new relationship head first, give the old relationship wounds time to heal. There is no hard and fast rule on how long to wait, but the new relationship needs to start for the right reasons.
2. You Don't Like What You See
Studies say that it takes around 6 months before people get to know one another. You might wonder why most new relationships don't last that long? It comes down to what you start to see in the other person before the 6-month milestone.
The first 3 months of dating are best compared to a free trial. In the beginning, you're excited. You learn the ropes and have some fun.
Around the third month, the enchantment wears off. Flaws suddenly start becoming noticeable, and a decision has to be made.
Is this person worth your time and effort? Could there be something better out there? The best decision will benefit you the most, even if that means moving on.
3. They're Being Clingy
Believed it or not, some people like clingy. The word has an off-putting connotation, but it's not always bad. People like feeling wanted. Of course, not everyone is the same.
As much as some people love an attached partner, some cannot stand a clingy person.
Typically, new relationships are in the getting-to-know-you phase. Quirks are not apparent right away, but soon, you might find out that you or your partner is overly attached. Relationships can suffer when this happens.
Has your focus shifted from you to the other person in your relationship? Is it hard to stop thinking about them? Are you counting down the minutes till you see them?
Are you constantly barraging them with messages? Now the most important question of all is, does the other person reciprocate?
New relationships cannot thrive when the two people involved are not on the same page. The best approach is an honest discussion rather than bottling things up. Though there is nothing wrong with being clingy to a certain degree, individuals in relationships need to maintain some level of independence.
4. Commitment Problems
Studies have shown that this behavior starts early in life and continues throughout adulthood. Essentially, the people who have trouble committing are those that fear rejection. This chronic fear keeps people guarded against others, making it hard for them to open up to their partners.
Some people fear commitment because they are afraid of being taken advantage of. People who feel like this are emotionally unavailable since their biggest fear is losing their identity.
In this case, ending things before they get too serious is something of a defense mechanism.
5. You Don't Know What You Want From Relationships
There are folks who aren't sure about the type of people they want to date or what they want out of the relationship they have gotten into. Dating to them means going with the flow rather than focusing on what they really want.
Dating under such circumstances can doom a new relationship. Without at least an idea of non-negotiable relationship conditions, you'll make poor dating decisions and end up with people who cannot make good partners in the long run.
6. Unfulfilled Needs
The beginning of a new relationship is always exciting. There are new experiences as you spend time together and have fun.
However, new relationships should be about more than just having fun. Relationships should fulfill the needs of both parties.
Men and women want to feel cherished. Maybe even a little intimacy and romance can help. When these needs, no matter what they are, aren't getting met, the relationship quickly breaks down. This is why most relationships end after 5 months of dating.
If you don't get what you need from one person, you will likely try to get it from another. Open communication is the key to overcoming this problem.
Sexual tension is important when dating someone. It becomes an important motivator for those first few months when you spend a lot of time together and trying to be as close as possible.
Even if you take things all the way, sex will only take you so far. Soon, the new relationship starts to fizzle out as your body and mind look for something more.
Relationships that start for no other reason other than sex soon lose their luster. For a relationship to go the distance, there must be more to the relationship than sexual lust.
If you want your new relationship to get past its 5-month anniversary, avoid these six problems. Don't invest more time and emotions in another dead-end relationship.