Why Do We Keep Making The Same Mistakes?

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Sometimes it can feel like nothing goes right and we simply keep making the same mistakes again and again.

Our mistakes can indeed be very similar in nature and that makes us feel like we can't do anything right. But as humans, we are imperfect and should accept that we will make mistakes now and then. It is normal.

However, if you feel like you're in a cycle of making the same mistakes all the time, there is a reason.

We'll take a look at the reasons for this seemingly never-ending cycle of mistakes that you make.

Not Taking Ownership

As humans, we don't always like to admit that we are wrong or that we messed up. Taking ownership of our failures is not easy.

Sometimes, things happen that are out of our control and we can't take ownership. But other times we are to blame, even if we won't admit it.

If you take responsibility for your actions, you may find that you stop making the same decisions and mistakes.

If you're not acting responsibly, you won't own up to what you did wrong and you'll continue repeating the same mistakes.


What you believe (or don't believe) has more of an effect on you than you realize. When it comes to making decisions, what you believe matters very much.

If you keep telling yourself that you will fail, you are creating a belief of failure. This becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts.

Your attitude and the truths you believe in your heart influences your life greatly. Don't tell yourself that you are undeserving because your heart will believe you.

If you don't stop believing your negativity, you won't stop making the same mistakes.

Bad Habits

Your habits could be damaging your happiness. Often, we make a habit out of being negative and as we mentioned, this will affect your life. If you want your life to be different, you're going to have to take a different approach to things.

Take a good hard look at your life, identify the bad habits you have, and work towards eliminating them.

Of course, this won't happen overnight, but you know you can do it. By changing your habits and approach to your life, you can stop making the same mistakes.

You can do this by trying new and interesting things. Give those things you're afraid of but know will do you good a shot. Don't give up before you've even tried, and if you struggle, keep trying.


You have to be honest with yourself if you want to change anything. You should not lie to yourself, even when the truth may not be all that pleasant.

Remember, what you believe will reflect in your heart and life. But that doesn't mean you should be lying to yourself. If you are, you're damaging your chances at real happiness.

When you're open and honest with yourself and adopting new, healthier habits, you will find that you don't make the same mistakes anymore.

In fact, you will become a stronger person who can take on life and its many challenges.


The biggest step you can take towards not repeating your mistakes is taking ownership. We've mentioned this at the start and it really is so important that we'll end with it.

Do not blame others for the state that your life is in. Stand up and own what you have done and taken the decision to not do it again.

You will find that once you start taking responsibility for your actions you won't be in the same cycle, repeating all your mistakes over and over anymore.

Of course, all this takes time so be patient with yourself. You wouldn't expect someone else to just change instantly, so don't expect it from yourself.

Stay strong and determined and maybe you'll surprise even yourself with what you can achieve.