In the past, I used to fantasize about discovering my very own Prince Charming. However, as time passed and my search continued, I found myself becoming increasingly drained. I came to the realization that an ideal person or companion doesn't exist, and it's crucial for us to accept this fact sooner rather than later. In any case, consistency should be prioritized over perfection since it is far more important in the long run.
1. I want a stable long-term relationship
Consistency is essential for a fulfilling and enduring relationship. Consider your own routine habits, such as exercise, daily bed-making, or taking educational courses. These consistent actions contribute to personal growth, don't they? Likewise, having a dependable partner who consistently shows up and puts in the effort each day (while being willing to do the same) is a valuable asset to any relationship.
2. Consistency doesn't lie
Consistency is a clear indicator of commitment. It eliminates any doubts about whether someone is playing games or if the relationship is on shaky ground. When a guy is there for you every day, demonstrating his love and appreciation, it's proof of his dedication. He wouldn't put in that level of effort if he wasn't interested in having a meaningful relationship with you.
3. You'll always find flaws in perfection
Perfection is deceptive and fleeting, inevitably revealing underlying imperfections. Rather than fixating on an idealized version of a man, seek out the reliability and steadfastness that truly matter. No one is without flaws, but if he acknowledges and works through them while putting in the effort for your relationship, he's worth keeping.
4. There's no point in perfection if it's the ugly kind
While it may seem like some people are naturally inclined to have a negative attitude, that doesn't mean they're a good match for you. It's pointless to desire a man who possesses every quality on your wishlist if his personality is unpleasant or he's a terrible person. Why waste your time on someone who doesn't truly appreciate you?
5. Promises mean nothing if they only end up broken
Many men make empty promises to achieve their immediate desires, including pledges of a perfect life and everlasting love. These claims are often baseless. When you prioritize your future, you realize the importance of avoiding men who manipulate you with falsehoods and empty promises. Actions speak louder than words.
6. It makes dating and relationships more fun
Paying attention to the small, consistent things in your relationship makes it all the more precious. Whether it's him making the bed every morning, even when he's running late for work, or the way he kisses you on the forehead each night before bed, even when you're upset, these small gestures matter. They may be easy to overlook, but their unwavering nature adds significance and value to your relationship.
7. Consistency has no words — you'll just see it
I've never encountered anyone who explicitly promised to consistently take out the trash, but I have met someone who simply did it without any discussion. We often obsess over the idea of perfection, yet consistency requires no such talk since actions speak for themselves. The beauty of consistency lies in the fact that there's no need for excessive talk, as those who practice it are too busy taking action. It's a refreshing change of pace.
8. You'll appreciate a consistent guy way more than a "perfect" one
As soon as your partner's façade of perfection begins to crack, you'll immediately sense it. It's a terrible feeling when you realize that the entire relationship was based on an idealized version of your partner. On the other hand, consistency becomes more valuable with each passing day, providing a sense of security and peace of mind. You can relax and breathe easily, knowing that he's not going anywhere. That sense of reassurance is priceless.
9. Consistency will teach you to be more responsible
Isn't it ridiculous that your partner is striving to make breakfast for you every day, while you remain under the covers in bed? I must admit, I used to be that woman. My ex's unwavering consistency inspired me to be more accountable and taught me the importance of putting in equal effort. Consistency has a way of rubbing off on you, and that's a positive thing.