Why "Baby It's Cold Outside" Is About Feminism, Not Rape Culture
Published in May 2019 / Updated in Oct 2021
There's an argument waging over a Christmas song, or let's call it a Holiday song, 'Baby It's Cold Outside,' saying that it promotes date rape. However, the song is about feminism.
This is Why Historical Context Matters
This favorite classic song was written in 1944, and it came from an era and place that's different from today's society.
According to the song, the persona "she" wants to stay. Get that right!
"She wants to stay."
The man isn't making or forcing her to stay. The woman is deciding on her own, despite the reasons society thinks she shouldn't.
Isn't the song romantic!
After a long argument that the song is promoting rape, research was done. It was discovered that the song isn't a rape anthem, according to the general historical knowledge of life in the 1940s.
Frank Loesser, Broadway musical composer, wrote the song as a dedication to his wife.
Frank wanted to sing the song together with the wife at a housewarming party they had hosted, and it became an instant hit.
Loesser's son John, who runs the Lyric Theatre in Stuart, explained:
"My father wrote that song as a piece of special material for him and my mother to do at parties."
The song was written in an era where seduction wasn't synonymous with sexual assaults. And at this age, men weren't assumed to be violent predators.
Frank's daughter, Susan Loesser, also tries to explain the line, "Say, what's in this drink?"
"Flirting was a whole different thing back then."
"People used to say: 'What's in this drink' as a joke. You know, this drink is going straight to my head, so what's in this drink? Back then, it didn't mean you drugged me."
Now you see why historical context is important?
It's sad living in a generation where everyone ignores how our forefathers used to do things. We believe everything we read to be true without relating to the era of the song.
'Baby, It's Cold Outside' Song is a Solid Feminism Context
The song 'Baby, It's Cold Outside' is actually a feminist context that empowers women about their sexuality.
She goes through the excuses, but her voice and catches up in the chorus sing their desires together.
The song was written in an era where women weren't supposed to embrace their sexuality in public. After a date, she couldn't sleepover, but I'm sure some did in secret.
In the song's lyrics, the woman is breaking the traditional norms she was brought up in. This paves the way for women to live their lives loud and as they wish.
Time has Changed, but Human Desires Hasn't
According to a study, experts say that it's only on the third date when people start making love. But it's happening more often on the first dates too.
Courtship in today's generation doesn't resemble how it used to look before the internet age. At those times, courtship was more important than anything else in the relationship stages. It was time to learn about your partner and create a special bond.
I think we should bring back the 'time gone by era' into our modern dating. At least we could have real and passionate talks as you look straight into your partner's eyes without phones interrupting tender moments.
So, when you're confronted by people's opinions about an issue, such as "Baby, It's Cold Outside song is promoting sexual assault," do research instead of misinterpreting the original context.