Every year, many couples part ways and this can be for a variety of reasons. However, in many cases, one partner is still keen to rekindle things and get back together. While it can be a dreadful feeling to want to get back with an ex when they clearly don't feel the same way, trying to force things is not the answer.
If you do want to get back with your ex and you think there may be a chance, it is important to tread very carefully. The last thing you want to do is make matters even worse and burn all your bridges when it comes to the chances of a reconciliation. With this in mind, it is important to avoid certain things and situations if you are serious about getting back together.
Tips to Help You
Some people try to get back with an ex while they are still feeling angry and bitter about something, which is the wrong thing to do. If you want to increase your chances of getting back together, here are some of the key things you need to avoid:
Don't Be Vengeful on Social Media
In today's digital world, it is all too easy for one partner to immediately start saying spiteful things or posting images online once the relationship ends. This is definitely not the way to get your ex back. Remember, you may feel angry and emotional when the breakup first happens, and this is most likely the time you will start posting things. Steer clear of doing this, as once you calm down, you will regret it, particularly if you then start hoping to get back together.
Avoid Harassing by Text/Message
Another common trait among partners that want to get back with exes is to start sending numerous daily texts or online messages. This could simply be messages such as 'hope you're ok' or 'how's your day?'. Forget it! The last thing your ex is going to want is to be harassed by you on a daily basis no matter how innocent the messages may seem. Unless you really need to contact your ex about something, give them some space.
Don't Engineer Situations
Some people start to engineer situations when they break up with someone, such as turning up at their favorite bars or 'accidentally' bumping into them on the street. Don't do this, as you will be infringing on their personal space. Of course, if you really do bump into them accidentally, that cannot be helped but don't go out of your way to make it happen, as it will seem obvious and may make you come across as a bit of a stalker.
Avoid Hassling Your Partner's Friends and Family
It is not just your ex-partner that you need to avoid harassing following a breakup but also their family and friends. Of course, if you have people who are friends with both of you, you can still keep in touch with them but do not use them to simply quiz them about your ex. If you are continually harassing and contacting your ex-partner's friends and family, it will most likely make your ex angry, as they are sure to find out.
Never Use Emotional Blackmail
Finally, never use emotional blackmail to try and get your ex back, as this is the wrong way to go about it. The last thing you want is to get back with your ex knowing that they don't really want to be with you but were scared not to come back because of the blackmail.
Give it Time
The key thing to do when you and your partner break up is to give things time. Their feelings and yours can change over time, and bitterness or anger can dissipate if you give one another enough space.