You've been exchanging texts with an attractive man. Whether you've gone on a few dates or not, your conversations have been flowing smoothly lately.
You sense a connection and therefore presume that he also feels a connection.
Then suddenly...silence. He fails to respond to one of your messages.
The hours pass by and your previously thriving conversation fades into oblivion.
We've experienced it all. The surprise and disappointment when the person you thought was doing great suddenly goes silent.
Rest assured, it's not a catastrophic situation. We'll guide you on what to text when a guy fails to respond, and also what to avoid doing.
ABSOLUTELY DON'T DO THESE THINGS
Avoiding common mistakes is a significant aspect in building your relationship when you first start dating.
Avoid these actions when he doesn't reply:
Don't lose your cool
Maintain your composure as you've done so far, there's no need to panic.
Remember, there are numerous reasons for his non-response and it doesn't necessarily mean he's losing interest in you.
There could be various reasons such as an emergency, a call from someone, busy with work, or a dead phone that could explain his absence.
Avoid rushing to the most unfavorable outcome. Pause and take a deep breath, then exhale.
In the meantime, distract yourself with something else, such as a girls' night out or a long-awaited TV show.
Resist the urge to demand an answer
As stated, there are numerous reasons why he may not have replied to you yet. It's possible that he intends to respond as soon as he can.
Avoid giving him a sudden surprise by texting him to inquire about why he didn't reply. This demand for an explanation may turn him off and give a negative impression.
If there was a genuine emergency or reason for his silence, approaching him in this manner will make you appear clingy and desperate. This could suggest to him that you cannot handle being independent and may not be an attractive partner.
Avoid flooding his phone with texts
Sending multiple texts in succession will appear excessive and unhinged when he eventually checks his phone.
Resist the urge to act out of anxiety. Pestering him with a series of messages will not prompt him to answer immediately.
Consider how disruptive it would be if you were in a meeting or with your family and your phone kept ringing. You wouldn't want that distraction, so don't subject him to it either.
You are above that behavior.
Don't forget your worth
The inner voice that sometimes tells you that you're inadequate?
Silence it. Overcome it with activities that boost your confidence and strength, such as music, friends, laughter, movies, books, or anything else that brings you joy.
Avoid concerns that he's lost interest, that you have driven him away, or that he's talking to someone he likes more. Do not pay attention to those thoughts.
If he were to lose interest, it's not a major issue. There will be many other men who will be eager to take his place in the future.
WHAT (AND WHEN) TO TEXT WHEN A GUY DOESN'T REPLY
Honestly, there aren't many options when he's not responding to your messages, and in this situation, it's best to avoid taking any action.
With that being said, there are several approaches you can take in this situation:
Wait for a day or two, then text him again
Regardless of what you choose, do not immediately send another text. This could present you in a negative manner.
It appears as though you're desperately seeking his attention, which is unattractive and not a desirable trait. Do not compromise your self-respect by engaging in this behavior.
Giving him some breathing room by waiting a day or two may allow him to address any prior obligations. During this time, review your last message objectively to ensure it was a message that a typical person would respond to.
It's possible that the wording of your message was unclear and he was unsure if you were expecting a response. Short messages and questions with no specific response expected are examples of text that can confuse the recipient.
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Follow up with him again if your last text was time-sensitive
This suggestion is more relevant if you had a scheduled event or date planned for that day.
If you had sent a message to confirm plans and received no response, it's reasonable to send a follow-up message. There could be various reasons why he hasn't answered, such as missing the text or becoming occupied after you sent it.
It's important to follow up with him if you had plans or a date scheduled, as you need to confirm his attendance. He may have missed your text or been occupied since it was sent, but reaching out again is necessary to avoid being stood up.
"It's been a while since you last responded, just wanted to make sure our plans are still set for later. Looking forward to seeing you!"
Inform him that you need to know if the plans are still on. Set a deadline by saying that if you don't receive a response from him within a specified time frame, you'll assume that the plans have been canceled and make alternative arrangements.
If you still want to see him, suggest rescheduling for a later date, a few days or a week away, to show that you're not constantly available. Let him know you're still interested at the end of the text.
"Hey! Just checking in regarding our plans for tonight at 6. If I don't hear back from you within the next hour or two, I'll assume that something came up and make alternative arrangements. Let me know if we're still on!"
Check on him with a lighthearted message
Do you find yourself unable to concentrate on anything else until you have an update on him?
Don't let anxiety take over, it's normal to feel worried but keep it in check.
If you're feeling restless and unable to focus on anything else, try sending one final text to check in with him, but keep it playful and humorous to avoid coming across as desperate.
Keep your text lighthearted and humorous to avoid coming across as desperate for his response. This showcases your wit and sense of humor and reduces the pressure for an immediate answer from him.
By incorporating humor into your message, you convey the message that you are not overly concerned about his response and can handle the situation in a lighthearted manner. This approach showcases your wit and humor, while also avoiding any perception of desperation for an immediate reply.
"Hey his name, just checking in to see if you're okay. No need for a response, just wanted to make sure you're doing well. Have a great day!"
The easiest option: don't text him at all
"Have you noticed any decrease in his interest prior to his not responding? And have you waited a few days but still not received a reply?"
Then it's best not to text him again. This could mean that he's starting to ghost you.
Remember, if someone isn't showing interest, it's their loss and there are many other options available.
If he can't recognize your worth, don't worry, there are plenty of other guys who will. Moving on from this situation isn't the end of the world when it comes to love and relationships.
It's natural for not every connection to be mutual. Just like you don't have feelings for every person who expresses interest in you, the same goes for him.
Don't try to hold onto something that's not there. Let it go and continue living your life in a way that makes you happy.
HOW TO KEEP HIM HANGING ON YOUR EVERY WORD
"It's discouraging to experience a decline in interest from someone you like, especially when it occurs repeatedly. It can lead to feelings of self-doubt and insecurity."
This may not necessarily be the problem. It could just be that your texting skills need improvement.
Texting plays a significant role in modern communication, and if you lack proficiency in it, it can negatively impact a developing relationship.
Consider exploring resources like the Text Chemistry course by Amy North, which utilizes psychology to help women write captivating texts that can make any man fall for them.