What To Do When He Doesn't Text You Back: 15 Responses

It can be extremely frustrating when a guy fails to respond to your message as quickly as you expect or would like.

How can you resolve this situation without hurting his feelings or causing him to lose interest in you?

Keep reading to find out the best approach to take when a guy doesn't text back!


There can be many reasons why a guy may not immediately reply, such as being busy, overwhelmed, experiencing something significant, feeling upset, or being in a bad mood.

All of these factors are beyond your control. What you can control, however, is how you respond and express your feelings.

If you're seeking the best way to react when he fails to reply, consider the following 20 suggestions:

1. Consider His Perspective

The most mature and responsible action to take when a guy doesn't text back is to put yourself in his shoes and consider his perspective.

Is there a valid reason for him to respond to you? And if not, why should he?

Are you in a romantic relationship or just friends?

Have you unintentionally offended him or missed an opportunity to impress him?

All these questions should be taken into account before making a decision on how to proceed.

2. Don't Make It A Big Deal

The next step in effectively handling the situation when a guy doesn't respond is to not immediately make a big deal out of it.

Ladies, let me tell you, it's not always a girl named Star, a strawberry-blonde cocktail waitress, who is keeping your man from texting back. Sometimes, he may simply be busy working, studying, or playing video games with someone else.

By avoiding jumping to conclusions and assuming the worst, you are already handling the situation like a pro.

3. Avoid Assuming Anything

In the spirit of not making assumptions, it's best to simply wait for his response and not speculate.

Wait until he reaches out and informs you of what's been going on.

If you still have questions after he replies, feel free to ask them.

4. Take His Emotional State Into Account

Regardless of whether he eventually texts back or not, take his emotional state into account before confronting him.

He may be feeling vulnerable, unimportant, or guilty about something, and you don't want to add to his distress.

5. Take Your Emotional State Into Account

It's also crucial to consider your own emotional state before sending any additional texts when a guy is ignoring you or hasn't responded yet.

Ignoring your emotions can lead to irrational thoughts, such as believing that he's trying to end the relationship or that he's with two other women.

6. Send A Follow-Up Text

If you really want to communicate with him, sending another text is an option, but it comes with risks.

Most of the time, it's better to give him space until he's ready to respond. Any other approach could drive him away or reduce his romantic interest in you.

If you're feeling bold, try starting a new conversation by surprising him with a lighthearted and inconsequential topic.

7. Reassure Him You're Interested

Let him know that you're committed to a long-term relationship with him and that you're waiting for him to respond to your questions.

The goal is to show him that you're invested in him and that he has the power to control the situation.

If you can do this successfully, you may finally receive the text you've been eagerly awaiting.

8. Try Not To Send Mixed Signals

When a man doesn't text back, it doesn't necessarily mean that he's sending mixed signals or playing games.

He may simply be occupied with work, family, or life responsibilities.

To avoid playing games, it's best to avoid jumping to conclusions about his intentions.

9. Hire A Relationship Expert

While not our first or last recommendation, consider seeking the advice of a relationship expert if you're having trouble understanding why he's not texting you back.

They may be overpriced and overrated, but at least they'll always respond to you!

10. Ask Him If He Wants To Spend Time Together

Sometimes the reason a man doesn't text back is that he misses you too much. Despite how strange it may sound, this is sometimes the case.

Perhaps you're spending too much time at work, with friends or family, and not enough with him (in his perception).

If you suspect this may be the case, reach out to him and ask to spend some time together. If this was the issue, he may respond to your text quickly.

11. Give Him Radio Silence

Some women may choose to give the man the silent treatment if he doesn't respond to their texts, but this approach can backfire.

He may choose to not respond for an even longer period of time, as a result of your silence.

12. Do Absolutely Nothing

Another option is to simply do nothing.

Doing nothing means not reacting, while giving him the silent treatment means not responding.

If you choose to do nothing, continue with your daily routine as if everything is normal (ignoring him).

13. Play Games With Your Friends

If you want to teach him a lesson, consider inviting your friends over for a gaming marathon and leave your phone on silent.

While gaming, make sure your phone's ringer is turned off so that his persistent texts won't disrupt your experience.

14. Evaluate Your Texting Habits

If his lack of response is causing you significant distress, take a step back and examine your texting habits.

Why does it bother you so much that he's not responding? Do you feel incomplete without his response? If so, it may be time to put down the phone and communicate using more primitive methods.

15. Stop Thinking About Whether He'll Text Or Not

Sometimes the best course of action is to stop thinking about whether he'll respond and let him decide when to reach out.

The reality is that the decision to respond to your message is ultimately up to him.

Constantly pestering him may result in him losing interest in you.

16. Accept The Fact That He Is Super Busy

It's a fact that men have lives that don't always revolve around us, but we understand it can be tough.

Keep in mind that when he doesn't respond, it could be due to his busy schedule with something other than you.

If you appreciate him taking you out on dates and showering you with gifts, then allow him to pursue his goals.

17. Try To Focus On Yourself

When choosing a response method, always maintain a big-picture perspective.

Stay centered on yourself and avoid letting rumors, negative thoughts, or unanswered texts affect your peace, goals, and ambitions.


When you're waiting for a text from someone and it takes longer than usual, or they don't respond at all, it can be confusing and hurtful.

Some key points to keep in mind when he doesn't text back are:

- Avoid blaming him, as he may not be responsible.

- Take all parties' perspectives into consideration and give them some space.

- Don't automatically feel hurt if he doesn't respond within your expected timeframe.

- Realize that if you're not dating, he may have other partners.

- Don't jump to the conclusion that there is a terrible reason he hasn't responded yet.


Why Do Guys Not Text You Back?

There are numerous reasons why a guy may choose not to text back promptly or at all - he may be nervous around you, intimidated, guilty, harsh, depressed, confused, or experiencing any other emotions.

Should I Text Him Back After He Ignored Me For Days?

When you believe a guy is ignoring you, it's common to feel the urge to continuously text until you receive a response. However, this is not the best course of action. If something is bothering him, each message you send may increase his stress levels.

Should I Text Again If No Reply?

When deciding whether to try texting the guy again if he's not answering, you should consider factors such as the length of time you've been waiting, the context of previous messages, and the nature and status of your relationship with him.

How Long To Wait If He Doesn't Text You Back?

There is no set rule for determining how long to wait when a guy suddenly stops texting you back. You need to consider the overall situation, including your and his daily routines, obligations, and relationship status. The wait time could be anywhere from a few hours to days or even weeks.

What Do You Do When A Guy Won't Text You Back?

If a guy doesn't text you back, it's best to take a step back and assess the situation before reacting. There could be a valid reason for his lack of response, such as an emergency or technical difficulties.