What I Learned From A Guy Who Was All Talk

I used to believe that if someone said they were going to do something, they would follow through. However, I learned the hard way that this isn't always the case. I was fooled by empty promises and it took me a long time to see that the person I was with was not being genuine. While it was a painful experience, it taught me valuable lessons about life, love, and my own self-worth. I won't make the same mistake again and will be more cautious in the future.


1. I was gullible as hell

I used to blindly trust what he said and was easily swayed by his words, even when his actions didn't match up. He would make excuses or treat me poorly, but I would always try to see things from his perspective and forgive him. In reality, I was just being deceived by him. I won't let myself fall for that again.

2. I forgave too easily

Even though I prefer to let go of grudges, I used to be too forgiving in my past relationship. I didn't want to cause any issues, so I would always forgive him when he didn't follow through on what he said he would do. I hoped that he would change, but that was not the case. I won't make that mistake again and will set higher standards for myself and those around me.


3. I was wrong to assume his intentions were good

I originally believed that he had my best interests and the relationship's best interests at heart. However, looking back, I realize that he was manipulative and made me doubt myself. I now understand that it was not me, but rather his true intentions and actions that were the problem.

4. I was too trusting

I trusted him because he had never given me a reason not to, and I didn't want to seem untrustworthy to him. However, I now realize that just because he didn't intentionally hurt me or cause issues doesn't mean he was trustworthy. He consistently broke his promises, and I should have recognized that as a red flag.


5. I made excuses for him

I used to make excuses for his bad behavior and try to defend him, blaming external factors instead of holding him accountable. But I've learned that the situation is not an excuse for how someone treats you. If he really cared about me, he would have listened and tried to understand my perspective.

6. I was always disappointed

I was constantly let down by him and felt like I was always hoping for something that would never come to fruition. Despite his promises, he never put in the effort to actually change. He never took my feelings seriously enough to try to make things better. Being with him was a cycle of disappointment.


7. I realized what was most important to me

Our relationship was difficult because he consistently failed to follow through on his promises or consider my wants and needs. His actions made it clear what he valued and why I struggled to believe in him. I didn't ask for much, but he still couldn't fulfill my basic requests. This experience has helped me understand what is most important to me in a relationship.


8. I realized what matters most in relationships

I learned that being in a relationship requires compromise and actions that follow through on words. Good communication and genuine care for your partner's well-being are essential in any relationship. It's important to hold high standards for these things.

9. Actions really do speak louder than words

I have learned that actions speak louder than words and will only believe someone if I see them follow through on their promises.