It’s been said that for each person, there are three different kinds of love. You will meet these loves during different times in your life and their time in your life will be for different reasons.
1. Your first- the young and innocent love
You will experience your first love when you are still young and in your teens. This kind of love is very idealistic, and you both try to make it out to the fairy tale you have seen in movies. Because of the naivety that comes with inexperience and being of such a young age, you both believe that it’s going to be your only love and will last forever. This will lead you to do just about anything to make the relationship work.
As you experience this love, the opinions and expectations of others including friends, family and the whole society are much more important than your own feelings. You will find yourself going all out with the displays of affection and constantly posting about your relationship because you want others to need others to see you for the “perfect” couple you most likely aren’t.
2. Your second- the hard love
Your second love will be tough and it’s the kind that will teach you the hard lessons about who you are, the kind of love you want in your life and what you want out of relationships.
Unfortunately, these lessons come with a price. This relationship will be full of drama and emotional, mental and even physical abuse will be the order of the day. It will have all the markings of an unhealthy and toxic relationship. There will be highs and lows and the vicious cycle will continue and you will find yourself riding through the lows as you wait for the highs.
The kind of pain you experience from this relationship will make you grow and teach you what you need out of your next relationship. Unfortunately, you may find yourself going through a vicious cycle of breaking up, making up and breaking up again, before you realize that it just isn’t working. This is because you will attach too much importance to trying to make things work rather than considering whether you should really invest in trying to make it work in the first place.
3. Your third- the one you didn’t see coming
This is the love that will catch you completely off-guard. It’s nothing like what you have ever experienced before, and you are tempted to think it’s unreal. Except that it is, and will be the most real relationship you have ever been in.
You meet someone when you were not even looking and you just, click. This person comes along, and you find yourself tearing away the walls you built up around yourself after the heartbreak from your past relationships.
This love doesn’t fit into what you have always thought love should be like, but it still knocks you off your feet by just how well it all fits. This person accepts you for who you are and pushes you to be the best version of yourself always. This kind lasts and will show you why it did not work out before with other people.
Your story is different from the next person’s story. You may or may not have met and experienced all your three loves, and if you haven’t, more likely than not, it may be that you are not ready yet. The good news is that there is still time. There is a time and reason for each love, and when you do meet your third love, the one who will stick around for a lifetime, it will all be well worth the wait.