When a new relationship begins, it’s easy to get carried away with excitement. You might start thinking this is it. I’m finally in love. But after a few months, things aren’t as great as they used to be. But you’ve already said the magic words. Now you feel trapped. You’ve already invested time and energy into this new relationship. Maybe you should just stick it out, even if it’s not how you always dreamed it would be.

As someone who has done this, I can tell you from personal experience that it’s a bad idea. If you find yourself questioning your relationship or having problems that just aren’t being resolved, it’s better to make a clean break as quickly as possible. The longer you wait, the worse things will become. 

To avoid this, learn how to take it slow. Not every relationship has to be serious. Take your time to figure out the things you are going to want out of your forever relationship. It’s okay to be picky. You need to find someone who will measure up to your standards. Otherwise, it’s a waste of time for both of you. That doesn’t mean nitpick. Don’t make your goals a man who only works in a certain profession or looks a certain way.

Think deeper.

Don’t settle for a man who likes to play games. This is a big red flag that he’s a professional bachelor. Catching feelings for him will lead to heartache. If you have a guy who’s constantly telling you he doesn’t like to put labels on things, or he’s just not sure if he’s ready to settle down, move on. He’s not the one. The same goes for men who say they are too busy to spend time with you. A man who loves you will make time. Even if he has to give up something he loves.

I used to think all men were the same.

They were all players and the ones who settled down didn’t really mean it. That was just my negative view of relationships corrupting my thought process. Once I ended my toxic relationship and really started to observe other couples, I realized how many men can be open about their feelings. And mean what they say. Your Mr. Right will have no problem telling you what’s on his mind. His goals, his thoughts, his passions, his past, and his fears. Your perfect man will be raw and vulnerable and willing to bare his soul to you. 

You are unique in your own way.

Make sure the man you fall for appreciates this. What you may see as flaws, he sees as imperfect perfections that he absolutely adores. When it’s right, those little insecurities you have, like snorting when you laugh or talking to yourself when you’re thinking, will be the things that make him pay the most attention to you. And when he looks at you during those times, it’ll take your breath away. It’s pure magic. He sees and loves, the real you.

He has seen your crazy side.

The side that most men run from because it’s just too much work. Yet he stays. And he appears unfazed. You wonder if maybe you aren’t as crazy as you thought. It was just that no one else knew how to help ground you so you wouldn’t lose it. When you fight, he doesn’t run. He matches your effort to fix it. To find a compromise. Even if it means only getting two hours of sleep before a long shift at work.

He’s willing to fight for you.

He’s willing to do whatever it takes to keep you by his side. Because he knows you’re the best thing to ever happen to him. And he never lets you forget it. He’s always finding small ways to make you feel special. You’ll get cheesy texts or memes. Corny jokes. Pathetic compliments. And yet, they’ll be the most perfect words you’ve ever heard. Because when you find a perfect love, he’ll be able to read your mind. 

He will take the words right out of your head.

My boyfriend is constantly blowing my mind by doing things like this. I could be thinking about wanting to go do something, like take a ride to the river or go exploring, and out of the blue, my boyfriend plans it. Without me ever saying a word to him or anyone about it! It really used to freak me out at first but now, I love it. 

Because it shows how well he knows me. He pays enough attention to my mood, to my body language, to my vocabulary choices, and that tells him all he needs to know about what it is I’m feeling. That, my friends, is the kind of thing you get when you wait for love instead of settling for basic.

When you find Mr. Right, it will be effortless from the start.

Everything is natural. There’s no awkwardness. There’s no adjustment period. You just click from day one and it’s like you’ve been doing this forever. You become a team. You balance each other out, like yin and yang. Where you’re weak, he’ll strengthen you. And in return, you support him when he needs it. You can rely on him, no matter what the situation. 

If you’re working late for a deadline, he’ll bring you a pick me up and rub your shoulders. If you’re sick, he’ll make you soup. When you’re stressed or sad, he’ll two-step you around the house. If you just need to complain about your sister’s new boyfriend or how your boss pissed you off, yet again, he’s all ears. He won’t make you feel guilty for saying what’s on your mind. For unloading your problems on him. And when you tell him your goals, he’ll be there cheering you on, pushing you to achieve them. Even when you’re ready to give up. 

It may get lonely waiting on the right kind of love, but it’s worth the wait.

Every little experience you are going through is teaching you something. It’s helping you evolve. Change into the person you’re meant to be. You won’t find Mr. Right until you’re right for him. Embrace every moment of your life. The good and the bad. It’s preparing you for your future. And it’s going to be better than you ever imagined! Just wait until it feels right.