When you hear of "fingering," you probably think of the act of inserting one or more fingers into a person's vagina. Still, you need to know that fingering is a sexual technique that involves manual stimulation of the clitoris, vagina, or anus p-spot for men, or g-spot for women during masturbation, foreplay, or penetrative sex.
You can perform fingering solo or with a partner of any gender identity or sexual orientation; it's all up to you. For those with vulva, fingering the clitoris or massage it, a small but yet important sexual organ at the top of the vulva that contains thousands of nerve endings is one of the main ways to achieve orgasm.
The vagina does not have as many nerve endings as the vulva, but certain areas may respond to touch. Besides vaginal fingering, there is anal fingering too.
Anal fingering is a thing as well, whether you have prostate or not.
What Is Anal Fingering, And How Do You Do It?
For women, anal fingering is different because, unfortunately, we don't have a p-spot. But do not despair; anal fingering or ass fingering can still feel amazing because there are loads of nerves around there.
It can put pressure on your supposed G-spot from inside, too. It also happens to be a great way to prepare for anal sex.
For men, anal fingering is great at producing quick and powerful orgasms, but that's not its primary function. It also aids in reproduction by producing seminal fluid and helping sperm live long and prosper after they're propelled from the penis.
Vaginal Fingering Or Finger-banging
To finger yourself, you first have to learn about the anatomy of the vulva. Thinking of fingering more as the clitoral and external stimulation instead of going straight inside the vaginal canal can be much more pleasurable.
Take some time to get to know the entirety of the genital region, slowly introducing your fingers to every inch of it.
You can also take this time to appreciate the variation of textures you feel externally and internally on you.
How To Finger Yourself The Right Way?
Fingering is a customizable technique that requires trying different approaches to determine what elicits the most pleasure. Here are some tips and tricks on how to do it yourself:
Wash your hands.
Wash your hands before manual stimulation to avoid introducing potentially harmful bacteria into your body.
Cut your nails.
Make sure your fingernails are trimmed and smooth if you are going to insert them into your vagina or anus.
Set the mood.
When engaging in any sexual activity, in this case fingering, it's important to create an inviting atmosphere where you feel safe and relaxed so you can enjoy the process without any distractions.
Lock your door for privacy, turn on some sexy music, light a candle, or wear seducing lingerie to get yourself in the mood for your fingering session.
Masturbation is just as much about mental readiness as it is physical pleasure.
Foreplay can help you build up to more intense sensations, but it's easy to rush it or skip it when you're alone.
Read erotica, watch an adult film, or indulge in dry humping before manual stimulation to prime your body for pleasure.
Touch your body.
Instead of prioritizing a quick orgasm, slow down the process to elongate the pleasure.
Concentrate on learning what kind of touch your body responds to most. Explore erogenous zones outside of your genitals.
Run your fingertips over your arms, thighs, chest or nipples, stomach, or any other parts of your body where you are most sensitive.
The right lubricant can enhance any sexual encounter, and fingering is no exception.
There are lubes formulated to relax or to warm your body up. Apply your lubrication of choice, then reapply again if needed. You will find that very enjoyable.
Once you feel confident that you have made a connection with your body and developed a style of fingering that you love, take it to the next level by incorporating toys, like vibrators, dildos, or anal plugs.
The clitoris or rectum.
For vulva owners, massaging the clitoris is a great way to begin with fingering.
Start with the outer folds of the labia and the clitoris, making circular motions with your finger, side-to-side, or up and down.
Apply different levels of pressure, and experiment with speed to see what feels best.
For penis owners or others who desire manual anal stimulation, lubricate the anus and gently circle it with a finger.
One finger at the time.
Slowly insert a finger into your vaginal opening and begin a slow stroking motion.
When you're ready, you can add another one or more. To manually stimulate your p-spot, slowly insert one finger, giving your body time to acclimate to the sensation.
Once you feel your anus or vagina is completely relaxed, slowly begin moving your finger in a "come hither" motion to target the g-spot or the prostate.
Can Fingering Transmit Any STIs?
It's not common for fingering to spread STIs, but there are still risks.
If there are any cuts or sores on the fingers, no matter how small, the risk of passing on or getting an STI increases.
Some people gradually insert the whole hand into a partner's vagina or anus, and this action is commonly known as fisting. Not everyone chooses to do this, but you can still try if you're into it.
Again, the risk of infection is higher if either person has any cuts or broken skin that comes into contact with their partner.
You can lower the risk of infections by wearing surgical gloves or finger cots. Then you can completely enjoy your adventure.
Have fun, and don't be ashamed or scared to explore your body.
The more you explore it by yourself, the more pleasure you'll have when you're with someone else. It's that simple!