Tricks for Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work
Published in May 2020 / Updated in Nov 2020
Long distance relationships are more popular than ever before thanks to the internet becoming the most common way for people in the US to meet a romantic partner. A decade ago, couples usually had long distance relationships as a result of college, work, and military service but today, you can easily find yourself in a long distance relationship with a person you’ve never met face-to-face who’s hundreds or even thousands of miles away. Unfortunately, most long distance relationships fail after just a few months as a result of mistrust, lack of emotional support, and the inability of partners to make adjustments to make it work. But, this doesn’t have to be the case for your relationship. If both you and your partner love each other and are willing to do what it takes, you can have a fulfilling and stress-free relationship despite the distance.
Communication is the key to success in any relationship, but more so if you are in a long distance relationship. First of all, learn each other’s schedules to avoid causing disturbances or distractions when trying to communicate at the wrong time, particularly if you’re in different time zones. A daily “good morning” and “good night” is a must to make each other feel cared for. Beyond that, try to update each other about the things that are happening in your lives, however mundane some of them may seem. When doing so, make sure you really go into the details instead of just mentioning the highlights. For instance, instead of saying you had a great dinner, you can go into the details of what it was and how you prepared it.
Visit each other
No matter how strong your long distance relationship is, feelings can fade quickly if you take too long to see each other. Visits are often the highlight of all long distance relationships and you must take every opportunity you get to see each other. After all the yearning and waiting and abstinence, you finally get to meet to fulfill all the little things you’ve been missing like kissing and holding hands. Try to visit each other as often as your circumstances or budget allow. For example, if you’re within driving distance, ensuring that you each have reliable and dependable vehicles that you can use whenever you need to visit is key. If your partner is in a far-away country or continent, stay on the lookout for airplane ticket offers and smooth out travel logistics to ensure they never steal any of your precious time together.
Set ground rules
You must be clear with each other on what you expect during your long distance relationship so that none of you does anything that will surprise or annoy the other party. For instance, is the relationship exclusive or are you allowed to go on dates with other people? What is the commitment level? What are you allowed or not allowed to do? Talking about these things and setting ground rules from the start will help you avoid a lot of arguments and headaches down the road. While at it, discuss your end goal for your relationship. No one wants to be in a long distance relationship indefinitely, so have a common goal for your relationship so that you can work together towards making it happen.
Long distance relationships are challenging but not impossible. With the right communication and commitment, your long distance relationship can survive every challenge and even end up being stronger and better than normal relationships.