Loving a guarded girl is never easy. There's a reason she is guarded. She has to protect her heart that has been broken before. She has to make sure she will never feel vulnerable again. So, she puts up a wall. If you are lucky enough that she lets you in, you must be something special because she doesn't let just anyone in.
In order to keep this guarded girl, she has to be loved a certain way. She has to be loved properly. And once you do that, and continue to do that, you will notice her walls come down. You will find out what she has been shielding you from all the time. Love your girl the right way and you will get the best version of her.
How To Love Her The Right Way
Security
She's created her own bubble that she only lets a select few into. She needs to know that she will always be safe. Security brings her comfort. To make her feel secure and comfortable, don't give her a reason to feel uneasy. Even if you aren't always around her, she wants to know you are there for her no matter what. You need to be her rock whenever she needs you the most.
Trust
Because she has been burned in the past, she finds it hard to trust. She doesn't trust people the way she used to. No, now you have to earn her trust. You have to follow through with what you say you are going to do. Trust is not earned through saying things, it is earned by showing her that she has nothing to fear with you.
Honesty
Having been fed lies before, she might not believe your true intentions. Once again, words mean very little to her. It's the actions that get her attention. You can tell her you love her as much as you want but she won't believe you until you SHOW her you love her. Those little things you do for her will add up to her knowing you mean what you say.
Acceptance
Chances are, it has taken her time to realize who she really is and what she really wants out of life. Don't try to change that. Embrace these things. Support her when she needs it the most. Let her know you are on her side and that you want to be in this thing called life together, as a team. Love her for who she truly is.
Love Her The Right Way And She Will Love You Back
When you love a guarded girl the right way, you will start to see the best version of her. She will open up to you and share things with you she has never shared before. She loves and trusts you and wants to share her life with you.
Your love and acceptance will make her shine in a way she has never felt before. Giving her the security of knowing you are her biggest fan will let her relax and she can finally start to let the walls fall away from her.
