Inspiration

To Any Woman Out There Who's Been Used For Her Body

He said he desired something genuine, but in reality, all he wanted was a casual sexual encounter. Unfortunately, this is a common experience for many women. If you have ever been taken advantage of sexually, it is important to understand that:

1. Not all men are scumbags

Not all men are solely interested in physical attraction. Some value intelligence and conversation. Some will show affection even after the act. Some will make you feel valued and attractive, even without sexual engagement.

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2. He's the real problem

It's not necessary to question your actions, as the problem lies with him. He may be struggling with fear of commitment, insecurity, or other personal issues. The important thing to remember is that these issues are his own and not a reflection of you.

3. You're not an object

Do not accept or justify his disrespectful behavior. You are not an object to be used and discarded at someone else's convenience. Recognize your worth as a valuable human being and demand to be treated with the respect you deserve.

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4. Casual intimacy isn't a sin

Do not let anyone make you feel ashamed of your body. It is not a reflection of your worth as a person. Your body should be respected, and what happened to you was not your fault. You are still the same strong and beautiful person, regardless of past experiences.

5. You're not an idiot

It is not uncommon for men to use manipulation tactics to take advantage of people. Do not blame yourself for falling for his lies. It happens to many people and it's not your fault. It's important to be aware of the situation and learn from it.

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6. You don't need to sleep with someone to make them like you

If you have been objectified or valued only for your physical appearance, it can be easy to internalize the belief that your body is your only asset. However, this is not true. You are a multi-dimensional person with unique qualities and talents. Your value as a person is not determined by your physical appearance, and you should not feel pressure to engage in physical relationships to gain validation or acceptance.

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7. Don't hate on love-making

Sex should not be viewed as a pursuit or a conquest for men, and a burden or obligation for women. It is an intimate act that can strengthen the connection and intimacy between two people. When you find a partner who respects and values you, you may find that it can be a fulfilling and meaningful experience.

8. Be proud of your body

It is unfortunate that the person you were involved with did not value your intellect or personality, but instead focused on your physical appearance. It is important to remember that your worth as a person is not determined by your physical appearance and you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who appreciates and values all aspects of you. It is not acceptable for someone to deceive or manipulate you in order to pursue a physical relationship.

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9. Don't make love if you don't want to

It is important to consider your own desires and boundaries when engaging in a sexual relationship. Sleeping with someone in the hopes of getting them to settle down or commit to a relationship is not a healthy or effective approach. Only engage in a sexual relationship if it is something you truly want, rather than for the sake of manipulation. Otherwise, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment or further exploitation.

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10. You'd make a great girlfriend

It is unfortunate that the person you were involved with only valued your physical appearance, but it is important to remember that your worth as a person extends far beyond your physical attributes. You have unique qualities and skills that make you a valuable partner. Do not let one negative experience define your self-worth, and look for a partner who values and appreciates all aspects of you.

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