If you haven't heard of a throuple relationship, allow me to educate you about this unique kind of romance and some of the delights it has in store for you. Apparently, some people have happily discovered that relationships can still work with three people; and this relationship is called a throuple.
Many people think romances max out at two people. But for those who appreciate the benefits of having this relationship, three is not a crowd.
Here, traditional views on romance are pushed to the side to pave way for a new way of thinking. But that's not to say there's anything wrong with the typical two-person romance.
If that's your idea of perfection, go for it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
But, like it or not, things have changed, and even relationships are not what they used to be. So, if you have been toying around with the idea of having a romance with two other people, these tips might help you get it right.
1. A Throuple Can't Be Forced
Forcing a relationship with anyone never works. The whole thing is bound to come crashing down at some point if you do.
So, you can imagine how much harder it is to force a romance between three people. You just don't have to get one person on board, but two.
That's about twice the effort, even before you consider that one or both parties might not warm up to the idea of being in a three-person romance so readily.
2. Don't Be Jealous
There will be moments when you might be tempted to feel jealous. After all, a relationship between two people does not force you to share your partner with anyone else.
In this relationship, you have to accept that none of your partners is truly yours. So, when you start to feel jealous, keep it under check because that's a feeling each of you probably has to battle with.
3. Know Every Member Of The Throuple Properly
Obviously, you will start as two people who are willing to have a third person join your romance and add to the excitement. Otherwise, you will be the person joining such a couple to complete the arrangement.
However, you should give each other time to know the other partners.
You should go on a date, just like in a regular relationship. This should help you understand if you have chemistry and similar relationship goals.
Usually, having a well-balanced interaction when you are having regular conversations is a clear sign that you will get along well even when things get more intimate.
4. A Throuple Should Have Clear Boundaries
Without boundaries, a throuple or any other relationship for that matter is bound to have lots of problems. Tell your partners what you will tolerate and what you won't.
If you have no idea where boundaries lie in your relationship, then expect lots of problems as you move along.
5. Know Each Other For Some Time Before Taking Things All The Way
Being in a threesome is not easy. You have to balance a lot of things and overcome any perceptions you had about relationships.
So, in case any of you is new to this kind of arrangement, make sure you give each other time to adjust to the requirements of the relationship.
This is also a good time to know each other before deciding if the relationship will work out for you or not.
6. See Each Member Of The Throuple As An Equal
You cannot allow one of the partners to get more or less attention than the others. Each of you should be just as important as the other two.
So, there has to be a constant attempt to maintain a balance so you can treat each other equally and find happiness in the relationship.
7. Don't Take The Throuple Too Seriously
There might be more than a few uncomfortable or awkward moments between the three of you, at least when you are getting started.
If possible, you can diffuse the tension during these moments with a laugh. Otherwise, minor things can ruin your momentum and make the whole affair seem harder than it really is.
8. Have Proper Communication
Communication is, and will always be, the glue that holds relationships together. Even when you have a single partner, communication is key if you want the relationship to last.
You will, therefore, need to pay more attention to this important aspect of your relationship if you have three partners. A lot of assumptions can be made, and things can go south pretty fast if there is no proper communication.
So, always ensure that you communicate as much as necessary to keep your romance going.
9. Be Ready For When One Of The Partner Loses Interest In Another
As relationships evolve, stuff comes out. You might find that fallout has happened between two of the partners.
That can make the romance really rocky and cause its disintegration. Furthermore, when two of the partners are not getting along, there is usually a lot of pressure on the third to make the three parties get along.
Yes, be ready to deal with such messes when you get into this kind of relationship.
10. It Doesn't Always Have To Be A Throuple
While the ideal scenario would be whereby the three of you get together to have a great time, that does not have to be a requirement.
If one of you is too busy, the other two can always meet up and have a great time.
Just make sure you don't deliberately push one partner out of the equation. That will ruin it pretty fast.
11. Include Everyone
If you regularly make one of you feel like a third wheel, then the relationship will eventually suffer irreparable damage.
Leaving out one partner will kill the fun pretty fast. You are all partners in this, nobody should feel like they don't belong in the relationship.
12. Resolve Relationship Problems In The Throuple As Soon As Possible
If you let problems go unresolved, you are bound to have epic fallouts on a very regular basis. As soon as there is an issue, make sure it's resolved at the earliest opportunity.
Don't ignore any problem, even if it seems minor.
13. Choose Whether Or Not To Keep It Private
Some people don't mind if the whole world knows they are in a throuple; but others do.
So, this is something you need to bring up to ensure that everyone is comfortable with how the relationship is handled in public.
14. Be Considerate And Sensitive
When someone chooses to be intimate with you, even if it's a group setting, they expect you to behave in a certain way. Make sure you balance out the compliments you give to the partners.
Showing some form of favoritism can be upsetting and cause a strain on the relationship.
15. Don't Have Another Relationship With Someone In The Throuple
If you want this relationship to work, you cannot be in a stronger relationship on the side with one of the partners.
Everybody should be given the same amount of attention. That's not exactly easy, but it's what you sign up for when you walk down this path.
If you favor one person over the other, you might end up in a two-person relationship faster than you can imagine.
In the worst-case scenario, you could end up alone if everyone is forced to choose sides and you end up alone.
16. Learn To Multitask
Paying attention to one partner is very different from dividing your attention between two partners. When you three are together, you must learn to give some attention to each of the partners.
Otherwise, you will be a selfish lover because there will usually be one partner who is less engaged than the others.
17. Be Versatile
You have to be very accommodating to make it work with two partners, just as you do to make a relationship with a single partner work. Over time, you might discover that some things don't work.
At these times, attempts to make the necessary adjustments should not be met with too much resistance.
Don't always insist on your way if it's clear an alternative is required.
18. Don't Expect The Other Two Partners To Obsess Over You
When you have a single partner, they can obsess over you and adore you in every possible way. But in a throuple, things are a little different.
You will have to get attention from someone who has to give someone else as much attention. That can be rough if you are not used to sharing affection with others.
So, don't get into this type of relationship if you cannot handle the pressure.
19. Keep An Open Mind
A threesome obviously entails breaking lots of conventional relationship rules. To play along more comfortably, you should be sure to keep an open mind.
If you have never imagined having sex in front of a third party, then you have to brace yourself for such possibilities. A throuple is about breaking conventional rules, and you need an open mind to make it through.
20. Know What You Want
In any relationship that you commit yourself to, there are certain things you expect. It's no different from a three-person romance.
You should make sure your needs and desires are clear to all the parties involved. Each one should express what they want.
That is the only way you can meet each other's desires and get satisfaction from the relationship.
21. If You Feel Uncomfortable Speak Up
If at any point during the relationship you feel like the relationship is not doing it for you, then feel free to voice your concerns to your partners.
You should never have to put up with an arrangement you don't like to avoid upsetting your partners.
Anyone who is open-minded enough to get into a romance involving three people should have no problem understanding that the arrangement can prove to be a little unpalatable for some people.
In other words, learn to speak up.
22. Remember To Stay Safe
Unlike a typical romance between two people, you might not have a lot of liberty to ask if any of your partners are seeing other people.
And let's be honest, someone who has no problem sharing a partner with you might not consider having other partners an issue.
In consideration of this fact, you should always protect yourself or make sure you are safe. If that means using condoms, make sure they are switched between partners.
23. Have A Plan
A relationship that requires the input of three people requires a little more organization than a two-person relationship. You have to sit down and come up with a schedule of how you will be meeting each other in consideration of your busy schedules.
This effort is necessary to make sure the relationship actually works. Without getting a chance to meet up physically, it can be very hard to keep this relationship going.
24. Learn To Have Fun
At the end of the day, being in this relationship is about enjoying yourself. So, learn to relax and enjoy yourself.
Although the relationship will have ups and downs like any other, make sure the focus for you is intimacy, joy, and great sex.
25. In A Throuple Everyone Should Win
In any relationship, everyone should be gaining something. That does not change even when three adults decide to get involved romantically.
So, if you feel like you are not getting any benefit from the relationship, make it known. Otherwise, if the problem is not addressed, then you are free to leave with no one blaming you.
If you feel that a two-person romantic relationship does not offer you an adequate outlet for your bubbling erotic passions, then a throuple might be precisely what you need. But as you pursue this kind of relationship, be sure to apply these simple tips and you won't have any problems.
