Published in Mar 2021 / Updated in Apr 2021
So, your first date has got you a second date. Congratulations! A lot of people don’t make it that far.
A first date is meant to last for only a short while, and people don’t get to know each other as well as they should. No wonder some people consider the second date the real first date.
However, a second date is an entirely different affair. At this point, expectations get a little higher, and those involved are usually at a point where they want to learn more about each other.
So, while a second date might be less anxious than a first date, there is more pressure to show what you are all about. This is the time you start figuring out if you are compatible as a couple.
1. Have Another Go At The First Date
People go on bad dates. However, that does not mean you are not a good match.
So, if you feel like something got in your way of enjoying a perfect first date, you can use the second as a do-over.
2. Try Something Different
Even if you had the best first date of your life, it’s probably best to try something different on a second date. If you went to the beach, you could try visiting a park.
3. Hug And Kiss On The Cheek
If you did not kiss during your first date, you should start the second date on a high note by kissing the guy on the cheek. If he doesn’t get the hint and fails to make a move before the end of the second date, then understand that it might not work out as well as you had anticipated.
4. Know Each Other Better
The second date should be fun, and if done right, it should lead to a third date. Ideally, the second date should not be spent in noisy bars, watching movies, hanging out with friends, watching sports, or doing some repetitive and boring stuff.
The reason is simple: that time should be spent knowing more about each other. Things like TV and friends get in the way of that since you cannot talk as much with so much going on.
This does not mean all activities are off-limits. The idea is to make sure that you remain close together and learn a little more about each other.
For instance, rather than having a tennis game that forces you to maintain a distance of over twenty feet between you, you could try swimming which allows you to stay close together.
Boat rides, hikes, and picnics can also work. If you want to go to bars, restaurants, concerts, or parties, make sure that is not the main part of the date.
5. The Guy Should Pick The Girl Up
During the first date, the two people should meet at the date venue. If it went well, then he can be trusted to pick you up where you live.
Of course, you should let a friend know you are going on a date in case of any security issues.
6. Check Out For Dealbreakers
Every relationship has dealbreakers. Before you date anyone, you should obviously know what they are.
So, the second date is the perfect time to know if the person wants any kids and what they think about relationships and marriage.
7. Don’t Bring Up Your Ex
Bringing up your ex can slow down your romance considerably. So, even though you should say more about yourself during the second date, it is not the perfect time to bring up your crazy ex.
If they ask, keep your answers simple and move on. Going on an hour-long monologue about your ex will not cast you in the best light.
8. Visit A Favorite Place
If you have a favorite place you can visit, then you can visit it during your second date. It can be especially great if you can propose a place the person really likes.
Of course, you should have been paying attention during the first date so as to figure out what your love interest loves.
9. Show Off A Special Skill
A second date is also a great time to show off your special skills. For instance, if you are a great artist or guitar player, you can show your date you meant what you said during your second date.
To them, it will feel like they are meeting you for the first time, which can be incredibly exciting. Of course, you have to make sure you give your date adequate attention.
Don’t get too carried away doing your thing that you forget you are on a date.
10. Flirt A Bit More
During the first date, things might have been tense. So, you might not have flirted as much.
During the second date, you can flirt a bit more with both words and actions. This is a great time to make each other feel more special.
11. Ask More Questions About The Person
It’s a great time to go deep and learn more about the person during a second date. For instance, ask the person more about the family, their visions of the future, and relationship goals.
A second date is not a time to put up a front and try to impress your potential partner. This is where it gets real.
This date is more about the person than it is about you. that is why you should be ready with questions to ask to know them better.
Otherwise, your date might decide you are not interested and cut the budding romance short.
12. Visit More Places
First dates usually involve visiting a single venue. During the second date, you should try to visit a few more places.
That naturally means you should make a little more time for this date. The second date should be longer.
13. Observe The Person
During the first date, you are usually trying too hard to be your best self to notice important things about your love interest. During the second date, you are more relaxed and therefore in a better position to learn more about this person.
This is the perfect time to know if the person embarrasses you or if they have an unpalatable sense of humor. Remember that this person is also more relaxed and therefore in a better position to show you their real selves.
14. Open Up More
During the first date, people try to show the best aspects of themselves. However, during the second date, it’s time to go deeper and reveal the less savory details about you or your family.
15. Find Out If You Are Happy
Now that you are more relaxed, the second date is a perfect time to see if this person makes you laugh. Laughter is a sign that you are comfortable around this person.
As you know, a shared sense of humor is critical in a relationship, as it can affect communication and attraction in a big way. If you are laughing, then the second date was worthwhile.
16. Compliment Each Other
During the second date, it is a great time to compliment each other. We all love compliments, especially from people we like.
However, try not to overdo it as it can seem like you are being insincere.
17. See If The Conversation Flows
Once you realize that your conversation is dry during the first date, you might blame that on the tension of meeting for the first time. However, during the second date, the conversation needs to flow.
Ideally, you should feel like you don’t have enough time to talk. If a two-hour second date turns into a day-long date because you can’t have enough of each other, then that’s a very good sign you can have a great relationship.
18. Show More Physical Intimacy
Clearly, you should not go overboard with your physical intimacy, but you should at least show more physical intimacy than you did during the first date.
This will make sure your date understands that you are attracted to them. You can touch their shoulders, hand or use other kinds of body language to make this apparent to your date.
19. Seek Physical Comfort
Most of the communication in our lives happens nonverbally. During the second date, you can learn if you are comfortable around each other.
If you are feeling what you are trying to start, then you will be more comfortable around each other physically.
That is very important in any relationship. Otherwise, you might end up having to force things into your relationship later on.
20. Tease Each Other A Little
A bit of gentle ribbing on a second date can help ease the tension and keep the whole affair lighthearted. You have to be careful not to come off as mean.
Generally, avoid anything that might hurt the other person’s feelings.
21. Get Rid Of The Awkwardness
First dates can get awkward, and that is quite okay. But if this continues into the second date, then there is a problem.
You should loosen up by the second date, or it might be time to accept that you have given it your best shot. Lasting awkwardness shows that there is a power imbalance in the relationship, which is not a good sign if at all you want a healthy relationship.
22. Find Out If Any Alarms Are Going Off In Your Head About This Person
If you were unsure if this person was right for you during the first date, then the second date is the perfect time to discover if your concerns were founded.
Realizing on a subconscious level that you are not comfortable around this person is one thing, but if you still feel concerned after a more relaxed second date, it might be time to take a break and avoid potential trouble.
23. Don’t Come On Too Strongly
Although the second date can feel like an incredible win, it is not the time to put pressure on your date. Don’t try to discuss when you are going to sleep together or start involving them in your personal problems.
With the right person, such issues come up at the right time. They don’t need to be forced.
24. Confirm Your Feelings For The Person
You might have been very excited during your first date, but that does not mean you have genuine feelings for this person. So, the second date gives you a perfect opportunity to find out if what you felt about this person is real.
25. Organize The Third Date
If the second date goes well, then you should organize a third date. However, you should be a little more detailed.
You know a little more about each other at this point, and you can go over a few options and find out what works best for the both of you.
To Sum Up
Getting the elusive second date should clearly tell you that there is something special happening between the two of you. This is when dating actually becomes fun since you are more relaxed around each other.
So, remember to enjoy each other’s company and take the second date as a sign that things are going well, especially if you managed to lock down the third date.