Some people were born with a silver spoon, and they, most likely, do not understand what it means to be rich. Only people who grew up next to wealthy families know the subtle signs that some simply had it better than others.
Shower Vs. Bathtub
If you have a shower and a bathtub, you are rich. But, it was not always this way, as one person wrote:
"Showing my age but having a shower in your house. Back in the day, only people with money had showers. We all only had baths."
The power of duvet
Another person explained that the rich ones always had duvets:
"Knowing what a duvet cover is and owning one. I remember when my wife and I were newlyweds, and she was telling me how we needed a duvet cover for our bed. I had no clue what a duvet cover was prior, as I always thought people just purchase sheets and/or the big-ass blankets with the lion/tiger prints. Suffice to say, my mind was blown away."
When eating out was ultra posh
To be fair, the prices of delivery have dropped in the past decade, but here is what it used to be:
"Having food delivered. $5-$10 mark up?? Are you kidding? For that matter, just going OUT to eat was a luxury."
Buying more than just necessities
This applies to today's word, sadly:
"Eating out. Birthday presents and Christmas presents that are not clothes or school supplies. New clothes that are not hand-me-downs. And haircuts at a hairdresser."
Some went to summer camps, others worked
"Kids that went to summer camp. I got sent to long distant family and worked on family farm."
The clear sign of wealth - a fruit bowl
"Fresh fruit and vegetables. Anything we ever got was frozen or from a can. Frozen and canned last longer too."
This person added something that proves that eating healthy was never cheap:
"People that openly had fruit bowls on their tables was the epitome of lavish for me as a kid."
Eating whenever, whatever
"Being allowed to go in the fridge and get something to drink or eat without having to ask or worry about being yelled at."
Helth insurance was always an issue
Some things never change. The rich do not have to wait for things to get terrible to see a doctor or pay all the bills.
"Not having to worry about food or bills. Paying out of pocket at the dentist."
Speaking of bills, heating is optional
A person explained that having "the heating on in the winter" was a clear sign of wealth. Again, this is an ongoing issue.
Stairs and healthy meals
"Stairs. I've always lived in an apartment, so for me, I really hope that I'll one day have a house with stairs. Also well-balanced meals, three meals a day."
Not eating the food for poor
The dream of those less fortunate was always the same: having enough to get good foods while managing to balance bills and not going broke:
"Paying all your bills without eating Ramen noodles."
Money causes stress which leads to arguments
Wealthy parents have one less thing to fight about - money. As one person said, being wealthy meant having "parents that didn't fight."
"Mine and my other poor friends' parents were always fighting. Most of the time, my parents fought it was over money. You could tell that they were just scared whether or not we were going to make it, and that's how it manifested. You just never really saw that same type of fighting at the friend's parents, who were comfortable."
Of course, money is not the only thing that can go wrong, but "there's a unique chaotic tension in poor households that is hard to describe."
There's more to life than main courses
A person wrote that having a chance to order outside the main course meant that you grew up without worrying about money:
"Getting an appetizer and/or dessert at a restaurant in addition to an entree."
Having privacy is a privilege, as one person who grew up poor wrote that being rich meant:
"Everyone having their own room. We all slept in a single room."
Hiring people to do stuff is a luxury
This person recollected what it meant to know you are in the presence of the wealthy ones, saying they could've hired people to "either cook, clean, mow the grass or do snow removal in the winter."
"Showing my age, but rich people didn't need layaway to afford back to school or Christmas shopping."
"I don't remember ever having name-brand items, food, or clothing. It was all generic Kmart. I bought my son a pair of Nike shoes and thought I felt rich for doing so."
Buying new is not an option
For many, going to thrift and second-hand shops was not a Tumblr aesthetic, as someone explained:
"Going to a store to pick out furniture. Like, actually buying NEW stuff, not just taking whatever you can find at thrift stores or garage sales. That seems so luxurious!"
Saying firm no to back pain
The answers that determine the wealth are often quite simple, as one person stated that "a new mattress" was a clear sign of wealth.
Getting a car
Getting a car for your 16th birthday is a must in teen movies. In reality, it is the dream, as one person said:
"Parents buying a car for your 16th birthday" was a sign of growing up rich.
This is a big one
As one person explained, the difference between rich and poor is:
"Not knowing EXACTLY how much money you have at any given time."
Speaking of cars...
Another sign of rich vs. poor is this statement:
"Not having to panic if your car breaks down."
"Those fridges with the water dispenser on it."
Yup, those are still reserved for the privileged ones.
More thoughts on medical issues
How do you know if someone is wealthy without seeing flashy cars?
"Regular doctor's office visits or seeing a dentist at all for anything other than an emergency."
Nice teeth go with a nice paycheck
"Having nice teeth that don't cause constant, debilitating pain" is another sign of wealth or fantastic genetics.
How do you know someone has money?
"Indifference. I realized what real wealth meant in high school when we cleaned up trash from a creek, and the rich kids wore their Polo shirts, Guess jeans, and Jordan's because if they were trashed, they simply would get new. The poor kids wore their grubby clothes they do labor in."
"Wealth is shown most acutely by indifference, nothing matters because money will fix it, and there is plenty enough to fill black holes."
Having cash means less overthinking
"Being able to buy something you need without having to ask yourself how badly you need it"
Moving is stressful, unless you are rich
One person explained what wealth meant while they were growing up by describing the moving process:
"Hiring moving men. Especially if they're the ones who pack all your s**t for you, too. So many times, I would borrow a friend's pickup (and buy my friend's help with offers of pizza and beer) to move from one s**tty place to another."
Things have changed:
"For my most recent move, my wife and I packed everything but hired professionals to load and unload it. I felt like a king."
What mental health?
Being rich means "having enough money to go to a psychologist for mental health."
If you were a poor child, this would resonate with your childhood dreams:
"Vacations that weren't visiting family."
It is all about being comfortable
"There's a line from Nick in New Girl that describes being well off as 'filling your gas tank up all the way rich.' That was the rich I wanted to be. Comfortable. Also, not having to do math in the grocery store to see what food you can buy."
Finally, growing up poor was about pizza and moms
As this person said:
"Eating pizza because you want to, not because it's $2. That and mom eating along with us normally instead of pretending that the crust is her favorite part, and that's why she'd eat the crust we leave."
It is the little things that make all the difference. And even these examples are nothing compared to how many children grow up, despite having working parents, who work all the time, trying to make ends meet.