There is a misconception that Empaths are weak, too soft for their own good, or victims of their own kindness. In truth, this isn’t how it is at all. Empaths are resilient individuals that have great strength and are highly sensitive to the feelings and emotions of others. Empaths need to know how to protect themselves and to create boundaries, otherwise when a narcissist enters the picture, “victims” is exactly what they will become.
Empaths are healers and hate to see someone in pain. They are deeply compassionate people that are naturally drawn to the damaged narcissist and their troubles. With the ability to feel underlying emotions, an empath can see the unhappy soul living within the narcissist. On discovering this, the empath’s instinctive response is to try to help, heal and love them. While on the other hand, the narcissist isn’t interested in healing, the narcissist wants to manipulate, belittle and control.
Here Is A List Of Things That Happen When An Empath Loves A Narcissist:
1. Empaths love to love. They love nothing more than to help someone feel “complete” again. And this leads to the problems, the more love an empath gives and devotes to the narcissist, the bigger the power and control the narcissist gains over the empath.
2. The narcissist leads the empath to believe the relationship is going well by continually showering them with love. In reality, what’s happening is they are looking for constant validation of your love for them.
3. The narcissist creates a false sense of comfort for the empath. They are giving the empath a strong sense of connection with this person, even if they have done nothing to reassure the empath that their feelings are right.
4. After a while, “gaslighting” happens, every time without fail! A narcissist tool to make an empath start questioning and doubting themselves. Using phrases such as: “You imagine it,” “You’re crazy,” “You’re overreacting,” all common phrases that start to affect an empath’s mental stability.
5. Gaslighting is control for a narcissist. Victims turn to their abuser and rely on their version of the reality as they have begun to doubt their own. They start to feel it’s all their fault. Something must be wrong with them and trust the narcissist further.
6. Many empaths suffer severe depression and anxiety from all of these manipulation tactics and control mechanisms. This only helps strengthen the empath’s feelings that they “need” the narcissist in order to feel ok. They pull back from friends and family and the narcissist becomes their world.
7. Narcissists can take an empath from the joys and normality they once had in their lives, to a very dark place. Where feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy are normal daily life because everything you do is in some way wrong.
8. The empath will at some point in the relationship reach their breaking point. The person they once were is now a distant memory, and their friends and family no longer recognize them.
9. Arguments in the relationship will start to appear between the empath and the narcissist as the empath will begin to take on the traits of their partner. The empath begins to realize that their needs are not being met and they start to show signs and actions that say “my needs matter too.” But to the narcissist, they see this as selfish behavior.
10. After the relationship ends(It Will!), both the empath and the narcissist carry on suffering. The narcissist will pick up with someone else for another equally toxic relationship. The empath has to build themselves and come out of a dark place of low self-esteem and unworthiness, guilt, shame, and no confidence.