Once upon a time, girls were married off to the highest bidder and that was the end of their freedom. Not really a fairytale, right?
But then again, life rarely is.
Just imagine how boring than must have been for them. It was childhood and then children and husband, with not much in between and not much choice.
Thankfully, now women have so many other options. Dating no longer has to necessarily lead to marriage, and you can have some fun. After all, we deserve it.
So, let’s take a look at some of the modern relationships you can be in and how to get the most out of them!
Friends With Benefits
Friends with benefits is the type of relationship that can be a lot of fun for both you and your “friend”. This involves a lot of enjoyment, but none of the commitment, which is great.
These relationships never officially start. It just happens. Either you have a really hot friend that you end up in bed with after a fun night out, or you meet someone new and end up in bed anyways. If neither of you wants a relationship, but you both like the “benefits”, this is the perfect relationship status for you.
Just make sure that they don’t develop feelings for you or you for them. That’s when it gets pesky, especially when one of the parties doesn’t see it the same way.
This is another fun relationship status for you. You get to have someone by your side and to explore around. With that in mind, your partner has to consent to this too, otherwise it’s just cheating.
In essence, when it’s just you who are enjoying the perks of an open relationship and your partner is committed to you, you are in a fake open relationship. Your partner likely only wants you but they don’t want to lose you, so they put up with it.
If you notice this, it’s good to talk to them and see what they want from you. If it’s something you are willing to consider, great but if not, it’s time to move on.
But if both of you are having fun, there’s no harm in it. You get to have a partner that loves you for who you are and if you happen to like someone else, you are free to enjoy spending time with them.
The booty call is similar to friends with benefits. However, your friend with benefits might be an actual friend and someone you talk to on occasion. A Booty Call knows he’s a Booty Call and nothing more. You guys barely even speak.
This is what makes it so much fun. You don’t have to explain why you’re calling them, they know. They are amazing in bed and they leave right after. This can be an old boyfriend or someone you had a one night stand with. Either way, you liked your chemistry under the sheets and you kept their phone number, just in case.
This type of relationship happens when you are both flirting with the idea of being in a committed relationship. Maybe you’ve just met and you like each other a lot, but neither of you is ready to take the next step… yet.
So, you’re just talking, texting a lot and enjoying the conversation while slowly falling in love. This relationship actually has a potential to be something serious.
Finally, this is an umbrella term for all sorts of fun arrangements. Maybe you’re just about to break up with your boyfriend, maybe you have a side piece, maybe you are having a placeholder partner etc.
You may even have complicated feelings for your friend or they have complicated feelings for you.
Whatever it is, I hope your “it’s complicated” is enjoyable kind.
Modern relationships and dating are truly wonderful. You get to choose from a wide spectrum of choices and none has to be too serious if you don’t want them to be. Enjoy the fact that you’re a woman of the 21st century and that you have all of these available!