History lessons would have far fewer horror stories if only people were able to spot a narcissist when a pompous, self-important and self-centered douche walked up to them.
Whatever the century, we all collectively allow a narcissist to overwhelm and smother us with their fanciful grandiose sense of self-importance, which we mistakenly take for confidence. Adolf Hitler, Alexander the Great, Henry VIII, and Napoleon Bonaparte are just a few examples of narcissists who almost wrecked the world. These are just some of the overly grandiose people who’ve managed to ruin the lives of millions.
The truth is we all come across a few narcissists in our lives. What’s the frightening thing? The only way you’re going to know if your new friend has a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is by experiencing it firsthand. By the time you come to realize they are self-absorbed and would care little for the feelings of others, it is already too late. They’ll have dragged you down into a horrid rabbit hole only a few are lucky to come out of.
Look out for these traits
Over the years though, researchers identified certain traits that come in handy for spotting a narcissist from a mile away. Knowing these characteristics gives you a sure guide for steering clear of folks who think they deserve special treatment and they can do no wrong.
There’s a slight problem though. Remember the fact that you have to get upfront and personal with a person before discovering they are narcissists? If you’re to find out whether a person is a narcissist or not, you have to get close to them. Narcissists typically don’t go around advertising their NPD traits because they are far too absorbed with themselves to share anything with people they just met.
To get to know if your new interest is a narcissist, you have to get close to the fire. Be prepared to look for some semblance of a relationship from the other person, even though you might get a little bit hurt. Should you find that the person is unable to compromise or share their secrets and fears, you might be facing a narcissist.
Narcissists also tend to think they are special and never do anything wrong. They seek out people with some flaws so that they can belittle them while feeding their shallow self-esteem and ego. So, if a person can’t take any form of criticism and only appears friendly when they are being praised, then that person is most likely a narcissist.
How to spot a camouflaged narcissist
Looking out for these signs will help you spot and identify most narcissists. There’s one group of narcissists notoriously tricky to pinpoint. These are the kinds of people who make you fall in love with them, and before you know it, you’re trapped in a spider’s web with no room to breathe or a chance to wiggle free.
What makes this kind of narcissist hard to identify is that they are fun to be around. Their charisma woes you and their sense of humor let your guard down. By the time you realize it was all a disguise, it is too late. The narcissist overlord has you imprisoned in a deep dark cell.
You can spot this type of narcissist by checking if your new partner goes berserk when hurt. If the person can’t keep his emotions in check, then you’re most likely dealing with a narcissist personality. The person will be full of themselves and never seem to follow the rules. Ever.
Should you spot these signs, make sure you never let the person inside your head. Don’t let them trick you into a guilt trip for something you did not do or feel pity for them over some flimsy excuse. Clear your head and see through the smog of lies and deceit. That way, you’ll be able to make the right decision and walk away from the relationship before any more damage is done.