Breaking up with a narcissist might feel more exhausting than dating them.
Luckily, once you’re out of the relationship, they won’t stick around forever to make your life a living hell. Here are some of the things to expect and ways to deal with them.
Breakups are never easy, but breaking up with a narcissist is a whole different kind of difficulty. It takes lots of understanding human nature to accept that you were in love with someone incapable of loving you. Narcissists are superficially charming, charismatic, and excellent at becoming the center of your life.
However, sooner or later, they reveal their true self, and you know what to do. But before you’re finally free, you will get through a lot of experiences you’ll want to forget.
Beg, plead, bargain
A narcissist will do anything and everything not to be dumped.
They’ll beg, make false promises, make threats, but the best thing to do is ignore them.
If you even allow them to talk, they might find a way to get back into your life again.
The no contact rule
A narcissist will find a way to return.
However, if you block their numbers, emails, social media, literally cut any ties with them, this is going to be harder for them.
Be brutal, ruthless, because that’s the only way to be finally free.
Remember why you wanted the breakup
Despite all your best efforts, you’re only human, so a narcissist might still find a way to get to you.
They will use your friends, coworkers, but the moment you start having doubts, remember why you decided to end things.
Make a list of all the things that went wrong, and remind yourself that there’s no worse feeling than being lonely while in a couple.
They’ll use other people
Not only will a narcissist parade their new “love” around you, but they will also use your mutual friends as a way to get to you.
Cut all the connections, and don’t let ego get the best of you. Ignoring is the only thing you should be focused on doing.
Focus on self-improvement
When you are done with a narcissist, you’ll go through a range of feelings, from self-blame to a victim mentality.
Do things that will make you happier, calmer, hang out with positive people, and don’t beat yourself up for your past relationship.
Narcists are fantastic at conquering people, and you didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not like they have a tattoo on their face with a warning sign.
A narcissist might stalk you.
Any break up can trigger harmful behaviors, but if you feel stalked, watched, or emotionally off-balance, talk to someone.
A therapist might help you get in touch with people who went what’s happening to you now. Yes, they are the ones who should be going to therapy, but this isn’t a punishment: this an excellent way for you to improve your sense of self-worth and recognize red flags before you get emotionally reinvested.
Don’t play their game, because you don’t know the rules. Instead, keep your head high and plan the future you deserve, with someone who will be good for your health.