Although it's typical to desire spending all your time with your new partner, it's crucial to separate yourself occasionally and sustain a life independent of him. Undoubtedly, you aim to construct a genuine connection with your significant other, but neglecting to allocate some time away may result in future remorse.
1. You Have Your Own Lives To Live, And That's A Good Thing
Allowing each other space to pursue individual interests and not being too clingy is essential for a healthy and robust relationship. It provides the opportunity for personal growth and a stronger bond, unlike the stifling and limiting effect of constantly being together. Failing to grant each other this freedom may lead to a stagnant relationship.
2. It'll Make Your Actual Conversations More Interesting
After having separate experiences throughout the day, you'll have exciting tales to share with your partner. Personally, I relish in catching up with my boyfriend, divulging the day's highlights, and even venting if necessary. It's a relaxing way to unwind and stay connected, whether it's via text or FaceTime. Keeping each other up-to-date on our lives strengthens our relationship, and I always anticipate this part of my day.
3. You Won't Be Completely Reliant On Him To Give You Attention
Realizing that your value isn't tied to receiving messages from a guy is crucial. By freeing yourself from this expectation, you'll experience a sense of liberation. You won't feel obligated to respond to messages around the clock. In my own experience, I've dated guys who expected a response within ten minutes, otherwise they felt neglected or unimportant. This type of thinking fosters toxic insecurities.
4. When You Do Hang Out, You'll Be Okay With/Appreciate The Silences
When you acknowledge that constant communication isn't necessary, you become more comfortable with silence. You might even grow to cherish it. Personally, some of my most cherished memories with my boyfriend are the times we spend together in silence, like watching a movie or engaging in a shared activity. We're content just being present with each other without feeling the need to fill every moment with conversation.
5. You'll Also Appreciate The Times You Do Talk More
Silences in a relationship complement the conversations you have, making them more meaningful. Unlike idle chatter, the words you exchange with your partner will have a purpose, like in school where tasks have a reason behind them. This creates a deeper connection and appreciation for each other's thoughts and feelings.
6. You Won't Always Need To Have Your Phone Glued To Your Hands
I love this part the most. I don't need to be constantly checking my phone while I'm out and about. I don't want to be that person who's always texting their boyfriend while hanging out with friends or family. It's not necessary and conversations can wait until you have free time. Phones are convenient, but shouldn't be consuming all of your time.
7. You Know He's Still There For You Whenever You Need It
Knowing that you don't always need to talk to each other creates a balance in the relationship. You can trust that when you do need him, he'll be there, and he'll be more receptive to your conversations because he knows they aren't constant.
8. You Don't Have To Feel Bad When You Have A Busy Day And Can't Call
In a healthy relationship, both partners understand that they can't always respond to each other's texts immediately. They respect each other's busy schedules and priorities. It's comforting to know that your significant other will eventually respond, and it shows that both of you prioritize communication and respect each other's time.
9. The Relationship Will Have A Much Lower Chance Of Burning Out
When you don't spend every moment talking to your partner, it's less likely that you'll get tired of each other. While some couples can talk all the time without issue, most people need breaks occasionally. When you have a life outside of the relationship, you can still thrive while being available for your partner. This approach also reduces the risk of arguments about response times and ensures that you both understand when the other is occupied.