Understanding what goes on in the female mind can be tasking. I'm a woman, so I know we can be a handful. We could be so into a guy and yet refuse to verbalize it. In such cases, conversation and body language signs she likes you will come in handy.
"Does she like me?", "Is she into me?" To find answers to these questions, there are signs you can look out for. You just need to know what signs to look out for.
So, in this article, I'm going to share 13 signs she likes you and secretly wants you.
I hope you find them helpful.
Body Language Signs She Likes You
She Mirrors You
Mirroring involves copying gestures, manner of speaking, energy, and language peculiar to another person.
To know if a girl likes you, watch her speak. If she copies your gestures, tries to match your tempo, and uses the slangs you use, it's a sign she's into you.
Jane McGonigal, a YouTuber and author of the bestseller "Reality is Broken" describes mirroring as the "unconscious body language of love" or "the love detector". According to her, the more we feel like we're connecting and clicking with someone, the more likely we are to physically mirror what they do.
So when you're in a conversation with her and you notice that she's making your trademark signs or using your slang, it's a clear sign she likes you.
She Looks At You
The eyes are the window to the soul. Our eyes speak; they tell what the heart feels. If a girl can't keep her eyes off you, she's most likely interested in you for some reason.
She's bold if she maintains eye contact. Probably shy if she looks away when you make eye contact. But, if her eyes only pass by you briefly and don't return, she's likely not interested.
A girl who likes you will maintain eye contact if she's having a conversation with you to let you know she's smitten and that you have her whole attention.
Adam Anderson, a professor of human development at Cornell University explains:
"The eyes are windows to the soul likely because they are first conduits for sight. Emotional expressive changes around the eye influence how we see, and in turn, this communicates to others how we think and feel."
This explains why you can tell a happy eye from an angry one, surprised or fearful one.
Thus, when you interact with her in person, one of the clear signs she likes you would be how she looks at you.
She Welcomes Your Touch And Reciprocates It
You can easily test this out to tell if she likes you. All you have to do is lightly touch her arm and see how she reacts. If she doesn't shrug your hand off or instantly move away, it's a good sign. But, it might also be that she's being polite. If in addition, she leans toward you or reciprocates the action, it's a great sign she's into you.
If she initiates the touch, superb! Note though that lightly touching you is not an indication that she's making sexual advances. According to John Schafer, a behavior analyst, "this light touch is not an invitation to a sexual encounter; it merely indicates that she likes you."
If she often "accidentally" brushes her leg against you or takes her sweet time to pick dirt off your hair or gives a lingering hug, they are great signs she likes you.
Other Body Language Signs
Her Body and Feet Are Turned Toward You
If she turns her body and feet towards you, it shows that she's giving you her undivided attention and full presence.
This often happens unconsciously. So, when you're in a group talking, keep an eye out for where her body and feet are positioned towards with you as the focus.
She's Nervous and Fidgety Around You
If a girl likes you, she might be fidgety and nervous around you. Her nervousness could make her say too much or too little. She could also look out of sorts.
Other signs of nervousness include face touching, interlaced fingers, hair patting, looking down, frequent blinking, and lip compression.
Oftentimes, your attention is what brings about the nervousness. If your attention is welcome despite the atmosphere, she'll still connect with you. But, if she shows disinterest and discomfort it's your cue to stop.
She Blushes Around You
Girls blush when they feel "exposed" or "caught" when something they don't want to be known is suddenly exposed. When she is self-conscious of being attracted to you, she'll blush.
According to HuffPost, blushing is a sign of attraction. "When we are attracted to someone, blood will flow to our face, causing our cheeks to get red." It's an evolutionary way the body tries to attract the opposite sex. So, if she's blushing, it's one of the many body language signs she likes you and secretly wants you.
Conversation Signs She's Into You
She Asks A Lot Of Questions
A girl who is interested in you most likely wants to know more about you. If she asks questions about your income, preferences in women, sexual preferences, hobbies, dating history, or body, she's likely into you.
According to Brendan Dilley, a relationship coach, the number of questions a woman asks can be a great indicator of her interest.
So, if you "maintain her gaze, provoke her touch and elicit more questions during a conversation", they're signs she's into you.
She Laughs At Your Jokes
If laughter comes easy to her when you try to make her laugh, it's a good sign.
Tell her your corniest joke. If she laughs, she's definitely into you.
Norman Li, human behavior and attraction expert says that if someone is interested in you, "they should be more likely to perceive you as humorous(laugh), even if you're objectively not funny."
Intonation allows us to decode emotions. Girls tend to sound sweeter and softer when speaking to someone they like. It's especially evident over the phone.
According to Business Insider, "when we face an attractive partner, our voices and speech are modified to sound more attractive and alike." Hence, if there's a favorable tweak in her intonation, it's a sign she's into you.
Signs She Likes You Via Text
She Keeps In Touch
A lady that keeps in touch likes you. When she chats you up regularly, engages your tweets, or likes every photo you post, it's likely she's into you.
When someone likes you, they'll want to keep the lines of communication open to get to know you better. She will promptly reply to your message or better still, initiate the conversation.
We often tend to speak more freely when online. You can gauge her motive from how she responds. Is she enthusiastic? Does her response show that she gave careful thought to what she typed? Or are her replies monosyllabic?
A positive answer to the first two questions indicates interest. A positive response to the last question indicates disinterest.
You Have Her Undivided Attention
When we are attracted to someone, we pay more than the usual attention to what they say and do. Tiny details from things you said either to her or to others in her presence are stored in her mind. She'll probably mention them in later conversations with you.
It could be something as little as "I don't drink in public", your favorite football club, or having a hectic week at work.
When you're in a group conversing, she watches. If she's shy, she looks away nervously when you make eye contact. Your conversations, she remembers them all. These are all excellent signs she likes you.
Other Signs A Girl Is Secretly Into You
She Tells Her Friends About You
Ladies tell their friends anything and everything. So if she likes you, her friends will know about it.
According to Bethany Ricciardi, sex education and relationship expert with Too Timid "The Romance Company", someone who likes highlighting how great you are to their friends and family, loves being with you.
If she introduces you to them, observe how they act around you. If they are friendly and involve you in their conversation, she has likely told them good things about you. They might even ask a lot of questions just to know if you're good enough for their friend.
She Agrees With Almost Everything You Say
When a girl likes a guy, he's like a deity who can never be wrong. Of course, this is peculiar to the "honeymoon phase" in many cases but it can serve as an indicator.
If she's always supporting you and standing up for you even when everyone is right and you are obviously wrong, she's very likely into you.
Unto The Next Level
Once you ascertain that she's into you via signs, seal it by asking her outright, there's no greater confirmation. You can then take your relationship to the next level. Make sure though that you're a man worthy of her.
If you're a lady reading this to know what signs to show to let him know you're into him, click here for conversation tips.
All the best!