Did you ever notice how mad you get when you see a friend or a relative in a toxic, static relationship and you want to walk up to that person, shake them up and shout in their faces, "WAKE UP!!!". We are always quickest to talk our loved ones out of such situations because we hate them struggling, but we never notice the signs when it's our turn to move on.
In this article, I will explain the 12 signs it's time to move on from a relationship.
Perhaps you are in a relationship that seems to be a waste of time. While most toxic relationships we notice are romantic ones, friendships can also fall under these signs.
Sure, it's not always roses and kisses in relationships, but we also get ourselves confused by minor conflicts and toxicity. It's not easy to decide when to move on from a relationship, especially one you invested so much time and emotions into. Still, we should never forget the most important thing- our happiness.
Top Signs It's Time To Move On From A Relationship
A few years ago, I was stuck in an unhealthy relationship that had no future. It had a significant strain on my mental health, but I didn't see any reason to leave because it was "one of those things." When I finally found the courage to move on, I was already damaged mentally. While moving on felt like I was going through a drug withdrawal; I am happy I did because I finally enjoyed and understood myself.
Here are the top 12 signs it's time to move on from a relationship. It doesn't just imply romantic relationships but platonic ones too.
When You Keep Living In The Memories
All relationships have their highs and lows, but when you are in one that has more cries than smiles, then you are definitely on the wrong train. Most people replay their happy moments and use them as an excuse to stay. A relationship should be about your current moments/feelings and not how it was in the beginning.
Being unhappy with only your memories to hold onto is one of the most prominent signs of moving on from the relationship. If the relationship often leaves you in tears with little or nothing to be happy about, you are clearly with the wrong person.
When Your Partner Belittles Your Opinion
Most people come out of relationships mentally incapacitated. They suffer from self-esteem issues, trust issues, and a lot of other baggage that come together.
Being with a partner that belittles your opinion, disrespects you, and makes you feel like you need to change everything about yourself makes you question your whole existence. It's unhealthy, and you don't deserve it.
It doesn't matter if you guys are "very happy when you are okay." It slowly destroys your self-confidence, and very soon, you may lose sight of who you are.
When You Keep On Making Excuses For Your Partner
It's not easy to see the people you love without rose distorted glasses. We make excuses for them because we believe they will change or because our justifications make us feel better about the situation. A relationship where you constantly make excuses for your partner to yourself or people is a number one red flag.
Take off those glasses and see your partner for who they are. Making excuses doesn't make the problem go away; it just gives you a false sense of denial.
When You Are Physically, Emotionally, Or Verbally Abused By Your Partner
Abuse is a no-no to everyone. Most people feel they can't be abused in a relationship, so when they are, they either pretend they are okay or don't talk about it at all. Abuse comes in different forms. The fact your partner doesn't hit you doesn't make his verbal abuses and emotional manipulations okay.
Identify your partner's abusive nature and walk away from the relationship with your dignity and your self-esteem in the bag. Don't just start moving on. Run!
When You Take A Step Forward And 20 Steps Backward
Imagine trying to fill a basket with water? Pointless right? Well, that's how most relationships are.
You both have an issue, spend hours and hours talking and arguing about it, come to a solution (or so you think), make-up and make out, and two days later, you are back to square one. Sounds familiar?
Then imagine this happening every time. Like twice a week. This could be draining and exhausting and makes you tired of the relationship. At this point, the safest and most reasonable thing is to accept that moving on is the only option.
When Your Partner Puts No Or Little Effort Into The Relationship
Nobody likes a one-sided love story, and people hate it more in real life. When your partner makes it feel like they are doing you a favor by dating you, or they just don't want to make an extra effort or any effort at all in the relationship, then it's time to move out and move on.
They are clearly tired of the relationship, and no, it's not your fault. Human beings are not constant and are confused most of the time. Moving on from that toxic relationship is a must, and I promise you there is someone out there ready to treat you like a queen or king.
When You Have Different Fundamental Beliefs And Values
My last relationship was one I thought would end with us both on the altar, but it ended with me slamming his door and running out of his house with just one thought in my head, "This can't work."
We were so different. He didn't share any of my beliefs or values. We couldn't agree on anything, even the flavor of ice cream to order. They say opposites attract, but some cases just make World War III look like heaven.
Some people make it work, but it is very hard. When all you guys do is fight, fight, fight, it is one the most significant signs to move on from a relationship.
When You Are Only In The Relationship Because You Don't Want To Be Alone Or You Are Afraid To Start Dating Again
Many people are stuck in unhappy and unhealthy relationships because they are afraid to be alone or go back to the dating market. Investing time, resources, and emotions in a relationship only for it to fail can be very scary to come to terms with.
Well, it's human to be afraid, but you are going to be okay. Staying in a relationship, instead of moving on, because of any of these reasons will just make you unhappy and depressed. It doesn't matter how much you have put into it; if you are not happy in your relationship, you need to leave.
When Your Relationship Lacks Trust It's Moving On Time
Love isn't the only thing needed to ensure a relationship works out. Respect, communication, and trust are also as important as the former. If you lose faith in your partner because of their past actions, it won't be easy to remain happy in your relationship. You will question every word, every gesture, which will eventually lead to conflict in your relationship.
If you believe you can no longer trust your partner, then it's better to start moving on. Forgiveness is also essential in a relationship, but you surely deserve better if your partner proves they aren't trustworthy.
When You Are Full Of Resentment
Have you ever seen a couple that is always mean and acts irritated around each other? Well, I have, and all I did was pray I never reached that stage with my partner.
Most times, such reactions are because of pent-up anger and disappointments. You get angry, irritated, or resentful whenever you see your significant other; if that isn't a neon sign for you to get moving on, then I wonder what is.
When You Are Scared To Say Anything Because It Will Lead To A Fight
Some relationships are like a ticking bomb. Everything annoys your partner, so you have to walk on eggshells around them.
What makes a relationship, romantic or platonic, different from acquaintanceship is the way you relate with each other. If you can't freely demonstrate your discomfort or fears to your partner or friend, then this is a sign that the relationship has run its course, and it's time for moving on.
When You Both Don't Feel The Same Way About Each Other Anymore
Nothing is constant except change. Being in love today doesn't mean it will be forever, and contrary to popular belief, it is okay.
Being in a relationship out of obligation is worse than telling your partner that you don't want a relationship anymore. It is going to hurt you both, but it will always do more good than bad.
Giving your partner respect by telling them how you feel is far better than letting them find out from your actions or, worse, your disloyalty.