Self-Love: How to Be Your Own Cheerleader in 4 Simple Steps
Peter KaranjaPublished in September 2020 / Updated in December 2020
Imagine having a cheerleader. You made the bed? Hooray! You ran 5 miles? Hooray!
Cheering yourself isn’t selfish. It’s actually a requirement. That is if you want a life of gratitude and overall fulfillment. And I bet you want that, don’t you?
It’s great to be supported and celebrated by your friends and loved ones. However, there won’t always be compliments or even someone to support you. Is it hurtful? Absolutely.
However, it’s real life. People are busy and not to mention have their own problems. So what do you do when you desperately need support?
Here are four sure ways to be your own cheerleader:
1. Positive self talk
As your own cheerleader, you need to be kind to yourself. This can prove hard since we have an inner critic-a naysayer whose sole purpose seems to convince you that you’re worthless.
And the worst part is when we hear things over and over, we tend to believe them. Consequently, it’s important to be aware of your negative self-talk. Make sure it’s positive.
Besides, you can practice positive affirmations;
“I am worthy”
“I love myself”
“I can achieve my goals”
Practice these mantras whenever you have less-than-positive thoughts. These mantras are therapeutic! And they WORK.
2. Celebrate your success
Don’t downplay your accomplishments. Instead, celebrate your success- big or small. For instance, you managed to work out for 30 minutes for a month, you nailed that presentation at work, or you managed to lose 2 pounds, but you were aiming to lose 5? Cheers! You’re on the right track.
Chances are you don’t celebrate your achievements as you ought to, and luckily for you, this is a habit you can master. Practice self-compassion and kindness. Stop relying on others for approval. You got you!
3. Stop comparing yourself to others
It’s normal to compare yourself to others. However, comparison instills fear and self-doubt within.
We all have different families, personalities, and goals. Therefore, the comparison doesn’t make sense since we are different, and by no means the same. With that being said, you don’t need to compare yourself to others.
God designed you perfectly. You are nothing short of special and unique. Practice gratitude- you have so much to be grateful for.
Take a few minutes each day to meditate. And if you’re tight on time, you can take at least 3 to 4 minutes.
Take deep breaths to check-in, clear your mind, and listen to your heart. Subsequently, you’ll declutter your mind and gain clarity on your worth and value.
Also, mediation enhances mindfulness and calmness, even in stressful situations. It helps you realize that it’s the failures, rejections, and setbacks you experience that make you stronger. In other words, you are all that you need, and your supportive family and friends are a bonus.
Having no self-esteem at an all-time low is a familiar scene. However, root for yourself as you would, your brother or sister. You wouldn’t want them to falter, but why would you allow it to happen to you?
People will rarely give you the recognition you deserve. Therefore, it’s only right to do it yourself. Go ahead, pat yourself on the back. You don’t need someone else to reaffirm your value. Seriously.