restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online

The ‘AITA’ (Am I The Asshole) subreddit boasts of 2.4-million followers who read stories about people who have no idea if they were jerks or not. A lot of strange things get posted on this subreddit, and sometimes, the media gets involved.

When a restaurant server allegedly gave a pregnant woman a virgin cocktail instead of real drinks, there were many comments from people.

Most Redditors Thought The Server Was The Asshole

When the AITA crowd found out about this story on Reddit, they agreed that this was a jerk move.

Still, there is room for other opinions. Do you think the server was right to keep the woman from enjoying alcoholic drinks when pregnant?

However, before getting there, it’s important to understand the relationship between alcohol drinking and pregnancy.

BPAS Doesn’t Think Alcohol Use Poses Such A Huge Risk To The Unborn Baby

According to British Pregnancy Advisory Service (BPAS), there is “no compelling evidence of harm at lower levels of alcohol consumption.”

The agency claimed that general precautions are all about abstaining based on the inability to rule out the risk, not evidence that alcohol actually causes harm to the unborn baby.

restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online

However, there is a causal relationship between high levels of alcohol consumption and harm, but mostly because alcohol use at these levels leads to nutritional issues, other forms of substance use, and other socio-economic factors.

Apparently, just 4 to 5% of the children born of women to women who drink a lot of alcohol during pregnancy are affected.

The agency claimed that women are “entitled to make their own decisions regarding alcohol consumption during pregnancy, and the majority of women do abstain.”

As it turns out, many pregnant women “regulate” their own consumption, with just 2.9% of them drinking more than a unit of alcohol a week when pregnant.

A BPAS spokesperson claims that the risks associated with consuming a bit of alcohol during pregnancy are often overstated.

He also said that many women usually consume a lot of alcohol before realizing they are several weeks pregnant, and it’s mostly not an issue for the unborn infant. The spokeswoman explained that these women “need reassurance and accurate information.”

However, the UK has guidelines directed at potentially pregnant women concerning alcohol consumption. The UK Chief Medical Officer recommends that “the safest level of alcohol consumption is no consumption at all.”

This message, however, was not given due to evidence of harm but because the women needed “simplicity” in the way they were educated about alcohol consumption during pregnancy. So, it’s mainly a precautionary stance.

Many Redditors Claimed The Server Was In The Wrong

restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online
restaurant server secretly gives pregnant woman non-alcoholic cocktails, faces backlash online

Although many Redditors said the server was a jerk, they all seemed to have various arguments regarding this opinion. For one, there was no definite way of knowing if the woman was pregnant.

Additionally, some argued that non-alcoholic beverages are usually cheaper than alcoholic beverages, which means the server’s “intervention” could be regarded as stealing. Nevertheless, there are places where the cost of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks is very similar.

Generally speaking, most commenters claimed that the woman had free will, which means the server had no obligation to intervene because you should never mess with someone’s food choices even if you have good intentions.

Even if the server would have felt guilty about serving alcohol to a pregnant woman, refusing to serve the woman and her friends altogether was still an option. The deception was uncalled for.

CDC And NHS Against Alcohol Use During Pregnancy

Still, there were those who believed that the server did the right thing even if some deception was involved. CDC claims that mothers that take alcohol during pregnancy can cause their children to suffer from fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs).

Such problems include physical problems as well as issues touching on behavior and learning. CDC also argues that there is no “safe amount of alcohol” and “no safe time to drink” during pregnancy.

Consequently, alcohol consumption can cause problems to the baby throughout the pregnancy, even if the woman has not known about her pregnancy. Also, the organization insists that all types of alcohol can cause harm, including wines and beers.

The NHS in the UK, on the other hand, claims that pregnant women avoid drinking alcohol to minimize its risks to the baby. Apparently, “drinking in pregnancy can lead to long-term harm to the baby, with the more you drink, the greater the risk.”

So, it seems that this server did the right thing for the baby. Although most people still think it was a jerk move to give the customer nonalcoholic drinks after she asked for alcoholic drinks. What do you think about this?