So the long-term relationship you thought would lead to your white picket fence dream just ended, and you are devastated. There are so many ways you can deal with this heartbreak. While some people may choose therapy or booze to help deal with this, others chose to get a rebound partner. This can seem like such a good idea at the start, especially if you have never been single in your life. However, studies show that it is not the best alternative.
It may sound like a great idea to deal with the pain by getting someone new, but do not immerse yourself in a new relationship. While you may find reasons to justify your decision, there are various reasons why it is not a valid response. Here are some of the reasons why a rebound relationship will lead you to regret later on.
Rebounds are often temporary
While there have been rebound relationships that turned out to be long-term serious relationships, most of them end up being a fling. Your partner in the rebound relationship may have no issue with this but it may end up affecting you. If you have been in a long relationship before then, you will most likely desire stability. Going into a fling will do a number on you if you are not careful; you will find yourself in a series of rebound relationships that may lead you into dealing with even more emotional pain.
You need time to heal
In order for any relationship to work, the parties involved need to be whole. Heartbreaks will leave you with a skewed view of how relationships work. Going with this mentality in a new relationship will not sit well with your partner. For this reason, you need to take the time to find healing for yourself. Get to a point where you have come to terms with the heartbreak you went through and know that not everyone you meet will treat you the same way as the person who broke your heart. Once you do this, only then will you be able to love without prejudice.
Broken hearts bleed on the innocent
We have all heard the phrase; if you do not heal you will end up bleeding on those who did you no harm. While you may not do this intentionally, the phrase is true. If you got out of a relationship with mistrust, you would find yourself carrying that mistrust around. This often means you project your fear on your partner, who may not have done anything to warrant your reaction to them. More often than not, you will not be able to sustain the relationship because of the baggage you carried from your previous relationship.
Rebound relationships are selfish
Most of the people who get into rebound relationships do so because they are afraid of being alone. This means you peg your happiness on someone else. If you have never been single in your life, it will be hard to be alone. This is a very selfish reason to be in a relationship. A partner is supposed to compliment you and not fill up voids you are unable to fill yourself. Take the time to know yourself and be confident with your singleness before you invite someone else to be in your life.
Going through heartbreak is hard. Most people are at a loss with what to do with their lives. This reason, however, should not make you rush into another relationship blindly. Take the time to feel the pain and process what happened to you. Find yourself, and know who you are as a single person. Once you know you are okay with being single, then you can get into a relationship with someone else who is also okay with being single.