If your goal is to maintain communication with a guy without seeming overly dependent, then sending him a lighthearted message is your most effective option.
In addition to ensuring the right tone, being playful can make texting your partner even more enjoyable. Even if you or your partner aren't big fans of texting, exchanging playful and fun messages can bring a smile to both of your faces.
Actually writing a playful text is often easier said than done. Many of us can relate to spending a fair amount of time composing and erasing messages as we grapple with how to express ourselves in a playful manner.
We've put together a list of playful text ideas for guys to help spark your creativity and inspire you.
Before we begin, let's establish some fundamental guidelines.
FOLLOW THESE TEXTING RULES
No texting him more than once or twice in a row
Imagine checking your phone and discovering that someone you barely knew had sent you ten consecutive texts while you were occupied with other matters. How would you feel about it?
We're willing to wager that your reaction wasn't favorable. You'd probably feel frustrated, uneasy, irritated, or even repelled by the person who bombarded you with so many texts.
We tend to engage in this kind of conduct when we're eager to converse with someone, and they're not responding promptly. We begin to believe that sending them another message will capture their attention and prompt a response.
However, as you can see, the issue with such behavior is that it makes you come across as bothersome or unsettling.
If you've been conversing with him and he's not responding, take a look at our manual on what to text when a guy doesn't reply for some guidance.
Keep your tone light
We've all encountered that individual who always seems to have a pessimistic attitude. Irrespective of the discussion's topic, they have a knack for deflating the atmosphere.
Over time, we attempt to avoid such individuals by any means possible. Similarly, if you allow such negative tones to infiltrate your text messages, the same phenomenon occurs.
Everyone has off days. It's perfectly normal to feel down for any reason or no reason at all, as emotions are not always within our control.
During the initial phases of a relationship, it's advisable to maintain a light and optimistic tone so that you don't burden him with your negativity. If you're feeling too distraught to achieve this, you may need to take a break from texting him and take care of yourself before continuing the conversation.
Don't text him too often
If you enjoy something or someone, you usually desire more of it, don't you?
Despite your level of fondness for him, attempt to avoid the temptation to text him incessantly. Take occasional breaks from the dialogue.
Utilize that time to concentrate on yourself. Spend time with your friends, read a book, go for a walk, or engage in any activity that brings you joy.
Why should you do this? Well, not always responding to him immediately or conversing with him at all hours of the day communicates to him that you have a life beyond your relationship.
Additionally, taking time for yourself enables you to unwind while keeping some conversation topics for your next meeting with him. Texting excessively may result in a dearth of subjects to discuss when you finally meet again.
PLAYFUL THINGS TO TEXT A GUY
Funny and Playful Texts
Do you want to learn how to attract him while eliciting a smile or a laugh? The solution is probably something you are already aware of: your sense of humor.
We naturally enjoy it when someone can make us laugh. It makes time pass quickly and transforms a dull date into an entertaining one.
Men are not impervious to a good sense of humor. In fact, a bit of online research would reveal that many men consider humor to be the most desirable trait in a girlfriend.
You can utilize your texts to demonstrate to him that you possess that desirable trait. Moreover, humor seamlessly adds a touch of playfulness to any text, so using it is akin to effortlessly applying that sought-after playful tone.
"How about we come up with a wild tale to share with our families about how we crossed paths?"
"I had a hilarious text in mind, but I think my wit is on vacation today. How about you check in with me tomorrow?"
"Imagine that this is the most hilarious joke you've ever come across."
Here's a classic one for you: "Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to shatter the ice!"
Here's a fresh take on the classic: "So, you want to know how much a polar bear weighs? Well, it can be anywhere between 330 to 900 pounds. Bet you didn't see that coming, did you?"
Share a meme that tickled your funny bone with him and see if it elicits the same response.
Discover the most clichéd pickup line you can and send it his way.
"Did you know that I always have a pun baking in the oven?"
Discover a cheesy dad joke to share with him.
"Are you feeling thirsty? Would you like a glass of hot 'me'?" (as a play on words with "tea")
"Now that you're a part of my life, I guess I'll have to start brainstorming my other two wishes..."
"You must consider signing up for a marathon because you've been running in my thoughts all day long."
"Would you like to go on a date with me soon? You have two options: Yes, or absolutely yes."
"I'm attempting to compose a cheesy poem about you. Which word should I use to rhyme with your name?"
"Do you mind if I draw an X on you? I heard that's where the treasure lies."
Flirty and Playful Texts
Adding a flirty tone to a text message can take it up a level from just being humorous, although there is often an overlap between flirty and funny.
Instead of merely entertaining him, you're expressing your attraction to him. You're displaying a vivid and captivating signal that you're interested in being more than just friends, and unless he's completely unaware, he'll catch on to your feelings.
Simultaneously, playfulness blends seamlessly with flirtation. By merging these two traits, you can convey your emotions for him without seeming too eager or needy.
"I recently overheard a conversation about the most attractive men in the world, but their list was incorrect as it didn't include you."
"I have a hunch that your chest would serve as a more comfortable pillow than the ones I have back at home."
"Would you like me to provide you with a list of my favorite breakfast foods, so that you can have breakfast ready for me next time I spend the night?"
"Each instance I lay my eyes on you, my jaw tends to drop - without fail."
"The radiance of your smile is so intense that it seems like I might have to put on sunglasses whenever I'm around you."
"It appears that I might have to undergo a surgical procedure to get you out of my thoughts."
"I'm amazed that I don't get a tan from standing close to you, you're so hot."
"I told my doctor that I wasn't willing to stay away from you, even if it means cutting back on sweets. ;)"
"Want to make things interesting and play his favorite video game with a bet? Loser buys dinner next time. Are you in?"
"I recently bought some new flavored chapstick. Would you like to come over and try them out?"
"If you've got Netflix, I'll bring the cuddles and maybe some snacks to share. How does that sound?"
"Would you like to have dinner together tonight? It would be great to spend some time with you."
"You're my favorite person to hang out with, and I'm definitely feeling hungry. Want to grab a snack together?"
"I've noticed that my heart seems to race when I'm around you. Is that a normal reaction or just me?"
"I've been feeling a lot of butterflies in my stomach lately, and it's all because of you. I need to do something about it."
If you're looking for some guidance in your texting game, Amy North, a relationship coach and expert, offers the best tips in her Text Chemistry course. With years of experience, she provides insight into how to keep a man interested by crafting texts that tap into his basic psychology.
Sexy and Playful Texts
If humor is one level and flirting is the next, then being sexy is an even higher aim. Crafting a message that is both playful and seductive is like turning up the intensity of your connection from zero to ten with just one text, and it's guaranteed to make him feel the heat (in a positive way, of course).
By sending such a message, you make it clear to him that you desire him and won't settle for being overlooked. However, solely focusing on being sexy could send another message that's less obvious: you may not be interested in anything beyond the physical aspect of the relationship.
While some men may be fine with a purely physical relationship, if you're seeking a more stable and lasting connection, it's essential to incorporate a range of emotions beyond just sexiness.
"I have a feeling I wouldn't have gotten much sleep if you were here with me last night."
"Have a good night's sleep and don't forget, it's not just bed bugs that bite. 😉 "
After sending a sexy selfie, you could follow it up with: "Just so you know, I taste just as good as I look."
"Want to join me for a shower and save some water together?"
"Excuse me, could you show me a tasteful image or provide a description of what you find attractive in a man?"
"How about you put off your clothe and let me give you a massage next time? My hands can work miracles. ;)"
"I had the strangest dream about you last night. I'd love to act it out with you as soon as possible."
"Perhaps I should consider getting more vitamin D. By the way, what are your plans for the upcoming weekend?"
"I'm not sure if it's the warmth outside or the thought of you that's making me feel hot."
"I believe we should have a conversation...in bed, without clothes. Perhaps without speaking as well."
"I can't get your actions from the other night out of my head. I'm hoping for an encore."
"You don't need shoes or a shirt - I'll provide excellent service 😉 "
"Consider this text a coupon redeemable for a make-out session from me at any time..."
"You want to play a game of dirty truth or dare with me over text?"
Looking for ideas to spice up your game of truth or dare over text? Check out our list of daring and provocative dares for guys.