Breakups are never easy. Not only can they be emotionally devastating, but they can also devastate other aspects of your life.
However, as bad as break up may be, they are not the end of the world, especially if you know what you should do next. If you’ve recently had a nasty breakup with your boyfriend, then here are several tips that will actually help you through a rough part of your life.
1. Remember why you broke up
Never forget why you two broke up in the first place. Yes, some part of you wants to patch things up, but when you remember the reason behind the breakup, you’ll lose that urge very quickly.
2. Seek closure
Breakups are more difficult when you don’t have closure, so give yourself closure; go find your ex and make things official. It’s time to end it permanently.
3. Be honest about your feelings
“We can still be friends” is one of those phrases people use to be courteous to their ex. You don’t have to do this. If you feel resentful or angry toward your ex, be honest about your feelings and express them openly.
4. Take a vacation and relax
A breakup can be a big deal. Don’t pretend that it isn’t. If you don’t work through your emotions or stress soon, they will only undermine your daily routine, and that’s something that you’ll want to avoid. So take a day off, relax or hang out with friends. Do anything that will help you release some steam.
5. Unfollow them on social media
If you want to unfollow him on social media, go ahead. Yes, it will feel awkward, and yes, you share a few friends, but “accidentally” bumping into each other on the internet can be embarrassing, especially if your friends are involved.
6. This too shall pass
The breakup feels like the worst thing in the world right now, but remember that this feeling will pass. It may take weeks or even months, but you’ll move on, and that’s what matters.
7. Get back in the game
Now that you’re single again, you should go back to the dating market as quickly as possible. Cry as much as you want, but when the tears and the anger have passed away, get back out there. The longer you focus on the past, the longer you’ll feel sorry for yourself, and that’s the last thing you want.
Speaking of self-pity, avoid it at all costs. Yes, the breakup was rough, and you probably feel like the main character of a bad romantic drama, but these feelings won’t help you. So don’t dwell on your misfortune. Focus on your life after the relationship and you’ll be able to recover faster.
9. Call up your friends
We don’t want our friends to pity us after a bad breakup, but that’s just pride talking. Admit to yourself that you’re in a bad place and go talk to your friends. They can help you recover from your wounds, and that’s what matters.