No, You Can Not Sleep Over After Sex — Here Is Why

According to popular belief, a guy who leaves right after sex is not interested, but I am indifferent about it. In fact, I prefer it that way. Here's why you shouldn't plan on spending the night after we've had sex.

1. I Need My Space

I value my personal space after sex, so I would appreciate it if you didn't stick around and try to force a conversation. Post-sex is my time to reflect, and I can't do that if you're lingering around. So, it's okay for you to head home.

2. I'm Not Ready To Open Up

I'm not comfortable sharing my deepest secrets right after sex, even though many people believe that's the perfect time for it. To me, pillow talk isn't necessary to feel closer to someone after being intimate. So, feel free to gather your belongings and leave. We can catch up tomorrow.

3. We're Not That Serious

Spending the night is reserved for guys I'm in a serious relationship with. If we're not at that point yet, there's no need for you to stay. My home is a privilege to share, and it's only for those who are in a committed relationship. I'm sorry if this disappoints you.

4. There's Too Much Pressure To Look Perfect While I Sleep

It's important to me that I look my best around you, but when it's bedtime, I feel most vulnerable. At that time, I'm not wearing makeup, my hair is a mess, and I'm usually dressed in a tattered t-shirt and a pair of holey boyshorts. I don't want to feel obligated to make myself look presentable just because you're spending the night. Instead of ensuring my hair is perfectly styled, sleeping with makeup on, and wearing my sexiest PJs, why don't you just head home?

5. I Hate Post-Sex Awkwardness

After engaging in sexual activities, there is often a sense of awkwardness that follows. I find it uncomfortable to make small talk during this time. To avoid any discomfort, perhaps it's best if we end the night early until we reach a level of complete ease with each other. Would you be okay with that?

6. I Need My Beauty Sleep

I know it's rude, but if you spend the night, I won't get enough sleep, and I really need those eight hours! It's always uncomfortable when someone is sleeping next to me. I'm afraid that my snoring might wake you up, or worse, I might unintentionally release an unpleasant bodily function while I'm sound asleep. To save myself from the embarrassment, it's best if you just go home.

7. Cuddling Isn't Mandatory

Many assume that girls love to cuddle after sex, but that's not the case for me. The idea of cuddling sounds great, but in reality, it's uncomfortable. Being wrapped up in a headlock all night makes it impossible to sleep comfortably. Moreover, cuddling can become uncomfortably hot and sweaty.

8. Don't Feel Obligated To Stay

When the night comes to an end, it can be nerve-racking for both of us. While you may feel like leaving, you might think it's better to stay. I want you to know that you don't have to feel obligated to do anything you don't want to. I won't think of you as a booty call or a hit-it-and-quit-it situation. I appreciate the good time we had, and you're free to go whenever you're ready.

9. Morning Sex Is Out Of The Question

My mornings are jam-packed, and I can't fit in morning sex. Don't get your hopes up for a round two before work. I am always running behind schedule and have to rush out of the door. Waking up 30 minutes earlier just to indulge in morning sex is not going to happen, even if you have morning wood.

10. I'm Not Sure If Things Will Work Out

I am not comfortable with you sleeping over until I know we have a future. Sleeping over means that you'll take up all the blankets, keep me up with your sleep-talking, and hog the bathroom in the morning. If we're uncertain about where we stand, let's keep things cool and casual for now. Maybe in the near future, I might let you stay over at my place. But for now, your Uber is waiting for you.