Have you ever seen those movies where the girl leaves the nice guy because he's too good? Well, that actually happened to me. I met a rare gem of a guy who supported me through all the ups and downs of life for years, but I realized I had to end things because of his unwavering goodness.

1. His Love Was Too Consuming

I felt completely drained by his love. It was suffocating. We often think we want a partner who's completely devoted to us, but let me tell you, it's not always ideal. It was exhausting trying to keep up with his level of affection and pretending to feel a depth of love that I didn't truly comprehend. We were young, full of life, with so many dreams and ambitions to pursue and prioritize. However, focusing on his overwhelming love and attempting to reciprocate it was hindering our progress.

2. He Tried Too Hard

Being a "try-hard" isn't attractive to anyone. Whenever we had disagreements or conflicts, he would simply tell me what I wanted to hear. He was always in search of my validation, making sure he was meeting my expectations. It was as if I were Regina George and he was Gretchen Weiners—if I asked him to jump, he'd inquire about the location, height, and if he was doing it correctly.

3. He Was Too Nice

I'm aware that what I'm about to say may come off as arrogant, but hear me out. It wasn't just that he was excessively kind to me and boosting my ego constantly, he was excessively kind to EVERYONE. Every girl in the mall, every person in the drive-thru, every stranger we crossed paths with—he would strike up a conversation and try to befriend them. It was the most frustrating aspect of his personality that I had to endure.

4. He Was Too Affectionate

I'm a fan of affection, but he lacked any sense of romance. He'd want to hold hands and touch me in uncomfortable situations. He'd even use affection as a way to claim his territory. At times, he'd try to aggressively kiss me in public if he sensed someone was staring at us, which was completely unacceptable.

5. He Was Too Accepting Of My Mistakes

I have to admit, I took advantage of him. Partly because he allowed me to (which is another topic we'll address later), but also because I was aware that he would always forgive me, even if my actions caused him immense pain. I realize that this makes me a toxic person, and I'm actively trying to work on that aspect of myself. However, it's also a flaw on his part. No one with self-respect would allow themselves to be mistreated repeatedly and continue to go back for more. Certain actions are meant to signal that it's time to move on, but not for him.

6. He Made Marriage A HUGE Deal

Family held a significant importance to him, and he had strong beliefs regarding marriage and having children. He was insistent on only marrying once and having kids with that same person. While I appreciate the idea of couples raising children and aging together, he would frequently "joke" about not being with anyone else if I ever left him. That kind of pressure was unnecessary and unpleasant.

7. He always bailed me out

Both literally and figuratively, he never allowed me to hit rock bottom and remain there. While this may seem like a positive trait of a good person, here's where I struggled: when someone isn't allowed to pick themselves up and find their own way out of tough situations, they become dependent on the rescuer. Even if I was wrong or deserved to face the consequences of my actions, he was always there to save me with his heroic deeds. I think this is the primary reason why I decided to end things. I needed the space to struggle and grow on my own.

8. He Was Too Afraid To Hurt Me

He had known me since our freshman year of high school, and even though we weren't always together, he never abandoned me. When I went away to college and started dating different people, he was still there for me when things went wrong. However, since he had witnessed so many of my heartbreaks, he was afraid to be tough on me even when I needed it. He couldn't stand to see me cry and would do everything in his power to stop my tears, but sometimes I just needed someone to listen and console me. Unfortunately, that was something he could never offer me, and it was disappointing.

9. He Was Too Much Of A Pushover

As I promised, I'll delve into this later. He allowed me to do anything I pleased at any time, and he would always forgive me if I unintentionally hurt his feelings. He did this because he believed it was what I wanted, but it's important to have boundaries in any relationship. It can't be all sunshine and rainbows because someday, one of us will cross a line that the other never established, and everything will unravel from there.

10. He Was Too Passionate In Bed

This may sound like a positive trait, but it actually ended up being a negative one for our relationship: he was too passionate about me. He was obsessed with the idea of finally making it out of the friend-zone and being with me, and that translated into him being too eager to consummate our relationship. He rushed things and was so focused on making love to me that he didn't take the time to build a strong emotional foundation for our relationship. As a result, our relationship ended up being short-lived.