My Boyfriend Has A Female Roommate And I Am Freaking Out About It


Although I typically wouldn't be too concerned about my boyfriend's new roommate, the fact that she is an attractive woman and potentially available is causing me some anxiety.

1. Why did it have to be a woman?

Why did my boyfriend and his male roommate choose a woman out of all the applicants? If they had chosen another guy, I wouldn't be so uneasy about the situation. I have lived with guys before, and it was always a disaster. I find it suspicious that she would want to live with a group of guys.

2. He had a hand in picking the roommate

I'm extremely concerned that my boyfriend specifically chose this woman over all the other applicants. What was the reason for him wanting to live with a woman, and why did he choose her in particular? I'm sure there were male applicants who were just as responsible, clean, and pleasant as she is. The whole situation has me feeling quite anxious.

3. She's super pretty and smart

It wouldn't bother me as much if the new roommate was extremely nerdy or unattractive, but that's not the case. She's a stunning, fit dancer who is absolutely gorgeous. Comparing myself to her is unavoidable, and the thought of her and my boyfriend becoming too friendly is incredibly unsettling.

4. I find myself acting super passive-aggressive when she's around

Whenever I visit my boyfriend's house and see all the roommates hanging out, I become a bit wary, especially around the new female roommate. I'm not sure if it's because she's a woman or if I genuinely have reasons to be suspicious of her. My boyfriend thinks I'm overreacting, but I strongly disagree. I believe anyone in my situation would feel uncomfortable, and I need him to realize how inappropriate this situation is.

5. He doesn't see why it's a big deal to me

I have already discussed my unease about the situation with my boyfriend, but he continues to dismiss my concerns. However, my instincts are telling me that there is a valid reason for my discomfort and that I should take it seriously. I only wish that my boyfriend would do the same.

6. nothing is forever and that's why I'm scared

I'm not being naive; it's not common for relationships to last forever. Even marriages that have lasted for decades can end in divorce, so how can I not see him living with a woman as a potential threat? Any girl in my position would feel the same, I'm sure. I'm just waiting for the day when I find out he cheated, and I'll know without a doubt that it was her.

7. He's cheated before so why wouldn't he do it again?

It's common for people to cheat at least once in their lives, and anyone who claims otherwise is not being truthful. In my opinion, emotional cheating is also considered cheating. I've cheated before, and I know my boyfriend has too. It's part of our nature to cheat, so why wouldn't he take advantage of this convenient opportunity to do so in the comfort of his own home? It's just common sense.

8. There's something fishy about her

You might be reading this and wondering why I'm so paranoid, but I'm not usually this obsessive. It's just that there's something about this girl that makes me feel suspicious, and I can't quite figure out what it is. She doesn't seem interested in getting to know me or being friends, and there's just something off about her that's making me even more paranoid than usual.

9. She's single and looking

To be honest, it doesn't make things any easier that she's not in a relationship. If she had a long-term boyfriend, I'd be totally fine with the situation. We could all double date and have a great time. However, since she's all alone and probably looking for someone, it's possible that she'll jump at the opportunity to get with her attractive male roommate. I know I have a problem, but it's hard not to worry.

10. It's not like I can ask him to not hang out with her

I know it may sound crazy, but I wouldn't hesitate to ban my boyfriend from hanging out with girls I see as a threat. Unfortunately, I can't do that in this case since they live together. When I'm not with him, my mind races with thoughts of what they might be doing back at the apartment. It's frustrating.

11. I guarantee he'd freak out if I lived with a guy

If I had a male roommate, my boyfriend would definitely not be okay with it. He doesn't seem to realize how big of a deal it is that he's living with a woman, but he would definitely see it if the roles were reversed and I was living with a guy.