A mom is trying to make the world understand that hugs with consent are completely different from hugs without consent. Hugs from relatives are nice and all, but according to this woman, they should come with consent.
Brittany Baxter is a TikTok video creator, and she wants her daughter's grandparents to accept that hugging her daughter without her consent is not okay.
The Australian mom shared several videos on TikTok arguing that the girl's grandparents overstep the boundaries she has put in place for her daughter. Apparently, they hug and even kiss the girl without her permission.
She was also surprised that it hurts them when the girl does not seem to enjoy that kind of affection at that particular time.
What are your thoughts on this?
Let's check out what the mother specifically said in her videos below.
Surprisingly, many people were in support of Britanny's opinion about strict boundaries and praised her initiative to teach her daughter about consent and body autonomy.
However, some criticized the woman.
The problem with consent is that this is a difficult topic to discuss as it is not always easy to express. Consent can be implied and even undeclared.
Here is the first video the woman posted explaining why her grandparents should not hug or kiss her daughter without her consent.
According to the Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy, consent can be granted in several ways. It can be outright, subtle, or even unapparent.
The resource explains that consent only has the all-important "binding force" if it meets certain conditions. These conditions include intention, competence, knowledge, acceptability of content, and voluntariness.
In other words, the person giving consent should be able to figure out what they are getting into. That means they understand the consequences of what they are consenting to.
At the same time, the person that needs consent should offer their services without fear of legal consequences.
The dictionary writes that:
"In standard cases, a person's consent to another person's acts removes moral or legal objections to or liability for the performance of those acts."
In a different video, the woman addresses the issue of confrontations that might result from her particular style of parenting.
The truth is that more parents are bringing up their kids to figure out the importance of consent early in their lives. This form of parenting focuses on the child's choices and body autonomy.
Obviously, this can cause some problems, particularly with family members who are not accepting of this modern form of parenting. These people might not take kindly to such boundaries.
She emphasized that it was important to stand your ground and avoid the temptation to let other people's opinions influence your parenting choices. According to her, it should not matter how much you respect and love the family members.
The third video was a special dedication to her critics. Here it is:
In the video, she takes on her critics head-on. She wondered if they have any idea what her child thinks about getting kisses and hugs from relatives.
She went on to claim that her own parents and her step-mom actually get consent from their granddaughter 98% of the time before they give her a hug. That shows they respect her decision.
However, she has an issue with her other grandparents.
On Australian TV, she claimed that there were all sorts of responses to her videos. Here is what she revealed:
"A lot of people are very outraged which I understand, a lot of people have misunderstood the point of the message that I'm trying to get across. But a lot of people have been in support of it as well and that's what has been amazing."
The woman also got into a heated argument online with people who had strong opinions about her unique brand of parenting.
Brittany is not the first woman to broach this controversial topic of consent on the internet. Other modern parents have tried to discuss the matter as well.
So, what do you think about this mother's parenting style? Do you agree with her?
Should kids learn about consent as soon as they are born, or should parents wait until they have grown up a little more? Let us know what you think?