Being an adult is about more than having the right to vote or buy drinks at the bar. It's about making the right decisions and taking responsibility for your actions. Acting mature is what makes you an adult.
There are certain things that mature people just don't do. How mature are you? Take a look at these 10 things mature folks don't do and find out.
Never Allow Fear To Have Control
This is pretty straightforward - mature people do not let fear tell them what they can and cannot do. If you allow fear to rule over your life, you're not living to your full potential. If you want to be mature, face your fear, and spit in its face. Stop making excuses.
Not About Pleasing Others
Mature people are not about making other people's lives easier and making their own uncomfortable and hellish. No, mature people take care of themselves so they can take care of others.
If you know that your life doesn't have to be about pleasing others, you've reached a new level of maturity. You can still make the people in your life happy, just don't make everything you do about pleasing everyone else.
Romance Isn't The Only Source Of Joy
For many people, finding a significant other is very important to be happy. However, this is not a mature approach to life. Love can come in many shapes and sizes and that is something that mature people understand.
Being in a relationship isn't the only way to feel fulfilled. Also, mature people know that romance isn't the same as in the movies. If you're mature, you get that romance comes in different ways.
You also know there are so many rich ways to love that it's actually much more thrilling than the 'normal' ways.
They Know How To Trust
Sure, we all have been in situations where our trust was broken by someone. But punishing the rest of the world for one person's actions isn't mature. If you respect and trust others until they give you reason not to, you are mature.
This is not something that is easily accomplished, so if you've reached this kind of maturity, you should pat yourself on the back.
Don't Hold A Grudge
Holding grudges is very unhealthy and not at all mature. It can be easier said than done, but grudges are poisonous and make you sick in the heart as well as the mind. Maturity means knowing when to let go and allow bygones to be bygones.
However, this doesn't mean you should let people do as they please. If you've got toxic people in your life, cut them out and move on.
They Are Not Insecure
Insecurity is something that all of us struggle with at some point in our lives. But overcoming those voices that tell you that you're not good enough is very mature. For the most part, mature people accept the things they cannot change.
They also work on improving the things that are not good or pleasing about themselves. They realize that being flawed is human, and that's perfectly fine.
Appreciate The Value Of Family
If you know that your family are the most important people in your life, you've reached respectable maturity. Most people go through times in their lives when they want to escape the hold of their family. However, moving on from that is what makes you a smart and mature adult.
The exception here is of course when family matters are of such a nature that you really are better off without certain people. Then it would be wise to find yourself a good family that isn't blood-related. The point is, mature people know the value of a strong family.
You Can't Bully Them
A mature person will not allow anyone to bully them, no matter what happens. Bullying doesn't just happen in the hallways of schools, it happens everywhere. If you don't let people make a trashcan of you, you are well-matured.
They Are Decisive
Folks who are mature won't take forever to get to a decision or a point. They will analyze a situation, weigh their options, and then act. This applies to all aspects of life. When they have to make decisions, they do so, and swiftly.
No Ego Control Here
You will not find someone mature nurturing a massive ego. Mature people know what they are worth, but they don't let that go to their heads. In fact, being mature means that you know your strong points as well as weaknesses. These strengths are honed and weaknesses are improved upon.
If you identify with these 10 signs of maturity, you are one of the people that many others look up to. Congrats!