A young man sparked an online debate after admitting on Reddit that he does not want to give up his seat for a pregnant woman.
Reddit's AITA (Am I The A**Hole) thread is always an intriguing place to learn about people and their behaviors, which is why so many topics go viral.
This young man came home and told his family how he refused to give his seat to a pregnant woman because he was too tired. The family was appalled by his behavior, leaving to Redditors to decide who was in the wrong: the man or his family.
The Man Speaks Up
The man said his car was not working, so he had to take the bus to work. He explained he worked for 10 hours and had to walk 15-20 minutes from the bus stop to his home.
One night, a "heavily pregnant" woman entered, and due to recent COVID-19 rules, fewer seats were already available.
The man wrote:
"I'm the closest to her, so she starts giving me the imploring eyes."
"I had my headphones on and tried to pretend I couldn't see her, but once she started talking to me, it became inevitable."
He told her he was tired, but she soon started crying.
The man then said:
"I told her I'm sorry, but that was her personal choice, and she can't expect other people to accommodate her life choices."
This is where things got a bit too much:
"We live in a state where birth control and abortions are free, so I don't know why this should be my problem. It's not my fault she decided to have a baby when she can't afford a car."
An Older Bus Passenger Called The Man A "Worthless Punk"
An older passenger started yelling at the man, and the pregnant woman joined him.
The older man offered the pregnant woman a seat, but the bus suddenly stopped as they were about to make a switch. They fell.
The young man pretended to ignore their continued yelling.
As expected, most Redditors said that the man was an a**hole.
A person wrote:
"Did you know that being heavily pregnant really alters your balance, let alone the tired thing?"
"No – you didn't ask her to be pregnant, but you can, as an able-bodied, otherwise healthy person, just choose to be nice. By being a selfish grumpy bugger, a heavily pregnant person and an old person fell over. Bringing up the contraception/abortion/'breeding' angle, too, really makes you an as*.
I bet you're a real 'nice guy.'"
Part Of His Actions Were Understandable
There are certain things we learn as children, and they are our introduction to morals and ethics.
Many Redditors did not blame a tired man for wanting to keep his seat. But, they were outraged by his comments on woman's pregnancy.
One person wrote:
"Public transit sucks. I assume there WERE other people who could have offered a seat but didn't. Diffusion of responsibility does that, and once she "picked" this guy, it let everyone else feel morally superior because they totally /would have/ done it if she'd asked them, but she didn't."
"But his attitude is so horrible that he's the AH. I think her immediately jumping to being a pregnant single mom is weird (part of the reason I don't believe this story), but him going off about BC and free abortions (what state is that???) and her bad decisions are what sealed it for me."
While his reasoning for seating is understandable, his further comments were way out of line.
Besides, he said in a post that he had a car but could not use it for a month or so since he was in an accident. Who's to say that the pregnant woman didn't have similar issues?
As a Redditor pointed out:
"The whole giving up seats for the pregnant and the elderly thing isn't because they're pregnant/elderly; it's because these particular groups are more likely to fall and suffer serious injuries when they do."
"OP, being tired sucks, but being tired and sore doesn't make you more vulnerable to bad falls, being pregnant does. That's why you're supposed to give up your seat. YTA and a massive one at that (because of the rant)."
The young man's biggest mistake was not about standing his ground regarding the bus seat. It was about assuming that you cannot be pregnant unless you have a car and a driver. Because he implied the woman was "heavily pregnant, "driving is often not the safest or most comfortable option.
Do you agree with our conclusion?