Polygamous relationships often pique curiosity and skepticism among outsiders. Nick Davis, self-proclaimed trophy husband, lives with his three wives—April, Jennifer, and Danielle—featured on TLC's Seeking Sister Wife. They navigate their complex relationship dynamics, including managing intimacy in their creatively named "boom boom room."
The Davis Family's Unique Arrangement
Nick Davis, who refers to himself as a "trophy husband," resides with his three wives while overseeing household responsibilities, contrasting with his wives' full-time careers. His role is unconventional; he draws a comparison to a static king on a chessboard while his active queens exert power. This arrangement forms the unique foundation of the Davis family's dynamic.
The 12ft Bed: A Symbol Of Unity
In the Davis household, one notable feature is their 12-foot-wide bed where all four family members sleep together. April highlights, "We officially have a 12ft wide bed," emphasizing the practicality of this arrangement in avoiding the nightly division of Nick's time among separate rooms. This contrasts with many polygamous families who opt for separate sleeping spaces due to practical considerations like finding suitable bed sheets, yet Nick and his three wives share a bed every night.
The 'Boom Boom Room'
Despite sharing a large bed, the Davis family has designated a separate area called the "boom boom room" for their intimate moments. This space allows Nick to maintain individual connections with each of his wives without disrupting their collective sleep arrangement. While not all wives are fond of the name—Danielle expresses her disapproval—it remains a functional part of their household dynamics.
Nick uses a solar system analogy to describe how he balances his attention among his wives: "As far as the sexual attention that each of my wives receives, it's kind of like a solar system. Each of the planets revolves around the sun in its own orbit, at its own distance. They don't all receive the same amount of sunlight, but they all receive what they need to remain in their orbit"¹. This analogy helps illustrate how he attempts to meet each wife's needs individually while maintaining harmony in the family. It seems we've upgraded from trophy husband to "star of the show".
The Role of Each Wife
April met Nick in university 15 years ago, and appreciates the assistance she gets from having additional wives. "Nick's a lot to handle. Let's just say that… in a lot of ways. Nick is a lot to handle in the bed. It's nice to be able to have helping hands," she explained. April played a pivotal role in introducing Jennifer into the marriage, recognizing her potential to complement their family dynamics.
Jennifer, who joined the family nine years after April, shares a strong intellectual and emotional connection with Nick. "It just became evident to me that she was a great person, there was a lot of high intellect in that big brain of hers and I knew that Nick would find her attractive," April shared. Jennifer's arrival solidified the family structure and introduced the new dynamic of trophy husband and his wives.
Danielle, the newest addition, was welcomed with a wedding ceremony that included April and Jennifer by Nick's side. "Having three wives, knowing that we've all solidified our union and brought it together like we have, it's just unbelievable. I just feel like I'm just living a dream come true," Nick said. Danielle echoed his sentiments, expressing a newfound happiness she hadn't ever experienced before.
Balancing Intimacy and Daily Life
Nick's wives manage both their professional responsibilities and household duties collaboratively. This division of labor enables Nick to concentrate on nurturing emotional and physical bonds with each wife, ensuring that everyone feels cherished and appreciated. This balance is crucial for sustaining their complex relationship over time.
Challenges And Criticisms
Living an unconventional lifestyle like theirs presents unique challenges for the Davis family. They frequently encounter public scrutiny and curiosity. Nick's analogy of himself as the sun around which his wives orbit has sparked diverse reactions online, with some finding it egocentric. "I've never heard someone compare themselves to the sun… that was a first," one commenter remarked, reflecting widespread surprise and skepticism. The concept of being a trophy husband solely focused on emotionally balancing his wives also raises eyebrows.
Despite these obstacles, the Davis family remains steadfast in their chosen lifestyle. They actively confront challenges, relying on trial and error to navigate their relationships. According to Nick, sustaining their connections demands ongoing effort and empathy.
Conclusion
The Davis family's journey offers a window into the intricate dynamics of polygamous relationships. Through defining clear roles, creating specific spaces like the "boom boom room," and nurturing open dialogue, they effectively manage their unconventional lifestyle. While their lifestyle may not resonate with everyone, their narrative underscores the significance of adaptability, mutual respect, and love in any relationship. Their ongoing narrative on Seeking Sister Wife serves as a valuable exploration of the diverse ways people can forge and sustain their families.
