As individuals who possess empathic abilities, we perceive the world around us with heightened sensitivity akin to tuning into a higher frequency. Our senses are often overloaded by the subtlest of cues, such as a coworker's sigh, a partner's emotional shift, or a twinge of compassion upon seeing an animal in distress. Empaths, also referred to as highly sensitive people, possess a keen awareness of the intricacies of human experiences. Consequently, our approach to love and relationships is distinct from that of the average person. Here are some ways in which empaths demonstrate their unique approach to love.
1. We're open with our emotions
Concealing our emotions is almost impossible for us as empaths, as we experience things deeply and display our emotions openly. While this means that there's no guesswork involved, it also requires others to be comfortable with such intense displays of emotions. We don't hold back, and whether we're thrilled or furious, you can expect us to show it completely. This type of vulnerability can be appealing to those who value genuine and heartfelt connections.
2. Our BS meters are strong, so honesty is everything
Empathy refers to the capacity to tune into another person's emotions and experiences. As empaths, we possess extraordinary empathic abilities that enable us to sense even the slightest nuances of others' feelings. Consequently, we can easily detect dishonesty, and we won't tolerate it. We always strive for honesty and expect the same level of transparency in return.
3. Gut instincts and intuition are everything
For us empaths, a partner's impressive credentials on paper, including physical attractiveness, intelligence, ambition, and kindness, aren't enough to sustain a relationship. If we sense an unsettling feeling in our gut, we're unwilling to remain in the situation. Our intuition has proven to be accurate in numerous cases, so we don't ignore it. We can detect emotional unavailability and other potential unhealthy circumstances, and we walk away from individuals who don't feel right, as long as we are in a balanced state ourselves.
4. We're deeply familiar with heartbreak
As empaths, we experience heartbreak regularly, and it can be both a blessing and a curse. Our heightened sensitivity means that we feel not only our own pain but also the heartbreak of friends and even the suffering of strangers from across the globe. This sensitivity doesn't indicate weakness, though, but rather a tender heart. If you break our hearts, we've experienced it many times before, and we'll emerge even stronger than before.
5. Consider yourself special because our love is highly sought after
As empaths, we are not only conventionally attractive, but we also radiate a strong presence, social and intellectual intelligence, and undeniable auras that make us stand out. It's hard not to notice us, and as a result, we attract a diverse range of people. We don't mean to brag, but we have many options when it comes to dating. Therefore, if we choose to be with you, it's because we see something unique and special in you.
6. We're unwilling to settle
As empaths, we may have many potential partners, but we're highly discerning when it comes to who we let into our lives. Due to our sensitivity, we only allow individuals with positive energy into our lives, those with whom we can be our true selves. Settling for anything less than a great match can be physically, emotionally, and spiritually painful for us. We understand ourselves well and are highly attuned to others, making it challenging to compromise on our standards.
7. Communication, communication, and more communication is our M.O
Empaths tend to have very active minds, constantly buzzing with thoughts and feelings. To manage this, we need to express ourselves regularly. Not only is it beneficial for us, but we also require consistent communication to confirm our intuition and make sure that our partner is on the same wavelength. Empaths are skilled in communication and rarely leave their partner in the dark about their thoughts and emotions. They tend to be ahead of the game when it comes to keeping their partner informed.
8. Intense love is a norm
As empaths, we experience everything more profoundly than the average person. Therefore, the love we feel has the power to awaken every cell in our body. It's a love that is intense enough to slow down time, make us feel incredible, and remind us of life's essential aspects. It's the kind of love that is hard to put into words. While it may not last forever, particularly in long-term relationships, if we fall in love with you, you're almost guaranteed to experience this extraordinary kind of love.
9. Intensity is our comfort zone — especially in the sheets
Empaths may seem like mystical beings, and in some respects, we are. Our strong connection to the world around us means that we are fully alive in the bedroom. We are often sexually experienced and hyper-focused on ensuring that our partner is satisfied. However, we also care about feeling connected and taken care of, so it's essential not to leave us hanging.
10. There's a chance we'll bolt. Sorry. We might be back?
Empaths are highly charged beings. While being with people fills us with life, there are times when we take on too much of other people's emotional baggage and become overwhelmed. At times, we might misread a situation and overreact. In such cases, there's a good chance that we may bolt. We apologize for that, but it's usually for the greater good. The silver lining is that once we've cooled off and gained a clear headspace, we are likely to come back if the situation is right.
11. We're old souls with lifetimes of experience
To deeply understand the intricacies of human experience requires a special individual. Look into an empath's eyes, and you'll see an old soul. Many highly sensitive people have faced trauma in this life or another, but they've learned and grown from these experiences, forging connections with others. Through our understanding of life's depths, we have much to offer and share with our partners.
12. We may burn out
Empaths are not invincible. In fact, our heightened sensitivity to the world around us can leave us vulnerable to exhaustion and overwhelm. Those of us who have learned to balance our empathic abilities have often done so after experiencing burnout. It's important to be mindful of not falling into a codependent relationship with an empath, as it can lead to unhealthy dynamics and eventual disconnection. By setting boundaries and maintaining balance, we can avoid burnout and continue to offer our love and empathy in a healthy way.
13. Every empath is on a different part of their own karmic journey
Each highly sensitive person is unique, and what applies to one may not apply to another (for instance, one may have a high sex drive while another may be asexual). Empaths who haven't processed their emotional baggage may struggle with issues such as PTSD, emotional dysregulation, addiction, and instability. While this is a natural part of the growth process, it can be challenging to be in a relationship with an empath who hasn't worked through their issues. However, finding an empath who has done the hard work of achieving emotional stability can feel like discovering a treasure.