Instead of jumping from one bad relationship to another, it's time to learn something. And it comes in the form of lessons from having to create a happy life while being single.
Most people will never admit that they are addicted to being in a couple. And many single people got so comfortable in their routine that they don't honestly want a partner. We need balance and the basic understanding that being solo is the only way to learn essential life lessons. And if you're enjoying it too much, perhaps you aren't ready to learn!
It's cruel, but the most important relationship is the one you have is with yourself. The more you love yourself, the more you're capable of sharing the love and avoiding the usual lousy character traits. So, what are we waiting for? This is a teachable moment!
Me, Myself And I
When you're in love and sharing your life, it's not actually your life. It belongs to two people. So, you're not getting to know what you want, what you need, since you're compromising all the time. It's not bad, but once you discover your needs, you'll be in for a surprise. This brings us to our next lesson.
Our Lovers, Our Lives
The road to self-discovery is long, often hard, yet incredibly important. When you know how to live with yourself, you'll notice that perhaps your exes weren't the problem. The issue was that you were not looking for a partner, just someone to be with. So, when you're discovering your passions, learning about self-respect and self-care, you are teaching yourself what it is that you need in a partner.
That sweet taste of freedom comes with significant responsibilities. You have to know how to make the most of pretty much every day. You are independent and solo, and the possibilities are endless. The choices you make during your single time will reflect on your future. That's why it's tricky to choose freedom over a mediocre relationship. But, settling is not an option, and we're onto the next lesson.
Once you start living your best single life, you'll feel much more secure and confident. Despite what your aunties say, your decision to be on your own is crucial for self-growth. And when you begin understanding that you're capable of doing everything alone, a partner will be the icing on the cake. Not someone who will fix you or complete you. That's the main reason you won't allow yourself to settle.
I Am What I Am
Sharing your life with the right person is a beautiful gift. To get to that point, you have to focus on fully accepting yourself with all your flaws. Then, you should be able to work on becoming a better version of yourself. You need a single life to be ready for a real relationship. You should be aware of all you have to offer since there's much more to being in a relationship than being in love. It starts all glittery, turns into a business transaction. You have to be okay with ups and downs to get to that happily ever after.
Many see single life as a punishment. In a way, it is true. If you're clever, you will use that time to improve yourself in every field. You won't be defined by your work or relationship status. It's not always going to be smooth sailing, but it's like you're discovering tools and clues which will make your life so much easier. Single or coupled up, the ultimate choice is yours. But, your me-time will most certainly make you a better partner!