Ladies, Doing Any Of These Things Is An Instant Turn-Off For Us Guys

Men may not be as complex as you think, but we also realize that our emotions and motivations aren't always obvious, especially to women. If you're wondering why we lost interest even though we seemed interested and things were going well, it might be because you're doing one of these 10 things that turn us off.

1. Being Clingy

Clichéd? Absolutely. A problem that only affects women? Definitely not. Guys can be just as clingy, and we know how unattractive it can be. The same goes for women. You don't have to know where your guy is every second of every day, and you don't have to be with him all the time. It's healthy to miss each other, and refusing to detach will turn him off pretty quickly.


2. Not Being Yourself

People are usually good at detecting BS. If you're not being true to yourself, we'll likely know it. Plus, it's not a sustainable plan in the long run. If you love olives but we don't, pretending to like them won't work out well. You'll never be able to enjoy them in front of us or order a dirty martini. Be yourself and own your personality. You're probably amazing, but we won't know if you're always pretending to be someone else.


3. Focusing On The Negative

Negativity can be a mood killer. It's important to focus on the positive. We're not expecting rainbows and sunshine all the time, but if you spend the entire date complaining about your job, friends, or ex, it won't be a fun experience. It's about finding balance. An honest conversation about unpleasant things is okay, but having a bad attitude is not.


4. Forgetting That You're Your Own Person

Take a moment to repeat after me: "I am a strong, independent woman." Co-dependency is not a requirement in any relationship. You have a life of your own, and that is not something we want you to give up for us. There is nothing more attractive than a woman who knows who she is and doesn't compromise her identity just because she is with a man.


5. Being Coy

Kindly be direct and clear in your communication. Express what you want and mean, instead of giving hints and expecting us to understand them. This approach makes communication easier, enhances understanding, and allows you to determine quickly if you and your partner are compatible. Efficiency is essential, and assuming that we won't grasp your hidden meaning will prevent misunderstandings.


6. Never Being Happy With What You Have

Women with goals are incredibly attractive, regardless of whether they are career-oriented or personal. Having a vision for your future and some semblance of a plan to achieve it is commendable. However, it's important to maintain a balance and not become too dissatisfied with your current situation, especially if you're not actively taking steps to change it. It can be frustrating for guys to be around someone who is unhappy and not doing anything about it.


7. Not Trusting Us When We've Never Given You A Reason To Doubt Us

We understand that everyone has been hurt in the past. However, it's important not to let those experiences dictate your behavior and mindset in new relationships. If you start distrusting a guy solely because of a bad experience with someone else, you run the risk of attracting the wrong type of people into your life. Each person is unique, and past experiences don't necessarily predict future outcomes. For example, just because Joe cheated on you doesn't mean that Mike will cheat on you too.


8. Lying

Always tell the truth. Dishonesty is usually found out or can make you unpleasant to be around, so it's best to be honest even if you think we might not like what you have to say. If you don't like something, tell us. It's okay to lie by omission, but in general, be honest and open about your thoughts and feelings.

9. Being Indecisive

Indecision is extremely frustrating. When we ask for your opinion or help to make a decision, we genuinely want your input. Saying "I'm okay with anything" is not helpful. Take a stand and make a definitive statement. For example, if we ask you whether you prefer chicken or pork tenderloin for dinner, don't just say "whatever you want." Make a decision and tell us.


10. Settling

Finally, have self-respect. If any of the guys you're interested in exhibit these behaviors, get out of there immediately. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Find someone who doesn't exhibit these behaviors and have a great time.