"How do I stop my in-laws from interfering in my life and spoiling my kids?" We get this urge so often, but, according to research, children who grow up with their grandparents are happier.
I've always been envious of people who grew up close to their grandparents and those who were able to enjoy that bond.
My family moved around a lot when I was growing up that my grandparents lived far away, and I was able to meet them only a few times while they were still alive.
Beyond the care, love, and guidance that grandparents give to their grandkids, research also shows that this special relationship is even more beneficial than we thought.
We all know parents and In-laws can often cause some difficulties and dramas, but raising your kids near them will foster strong relationships within the family.
A grandparent can prevent depression!
A study of 374 grandparents and 356 adult grandchildren (conducted by researchers from Boston College who analyzed data collected for 19 years) found that having a close emotional bond between a grandparent and grandchild can actually reduce depressive symptoms for both.
The study revealed that children who grow up to have greater emotional closeness with their grandparents are less likely to get depressed as adults!
According to Vanessa Jensen, PsyD, of Cleveland Clinic, the more care and love a child gets, the better:
"The more people who love your child, the better. Presumably, if they're reasonably healthy people and reasonable in their approach to how they care for your child – it never hurts to have more people who can care about an individual child or a family."
Another study, from the University of Oxford, found that children who had close relationships with their grandparents coped better with traumatic and stressful life events, such as bullying or even going through a divorce.
This research also revealed that kids with a higher level of involvement from grandparents in their lives have fewer behavioral and emotional problems. They also dealt with life changes in a more healthy way.
According to Kimberly Agresta, of the Agresta Psychotherapy Group:
"If parents regularly involve grandparents in their child's life early on, a child can develop real emotional closeness to the grandparents and begin to see the grandparent as a source of strong social support. So a child will feel that they have other adults, aside from their parents, who love and care about them in the same way, and this adds to their sense of stability and security."
The time spent between the seniors and the grandchildren is highly valuable for both. It drastically enriches and improves their lives.
So, leave your kid in their grandparents' place and be sure everyone will have a fantastic time!