Some people strike it lucky when it comes to their relationship, and they meet the perfect soulmate early on in life. However, others find themselves in a string of disastrous relationships, and this includes getting involved with narcissists.
When you are dating a narcissist, it can turn out to be a dreadful experience and can have a big impact on your life. However, some people are not even aware that they are dating a narcissist, so in this article, we will detail some key indications and signs to look out for.
What Are the Signs to Look Out For?
Various signs could suggest you are dating a narcissist, and it is advisable to familiarize yourself with these. Some of the signs are:
They Always Talk About Themselves
One thing you may have noticed about your partner is that they like to spend more time talking about themselves than anything or anyone else. In fact, even when you're having a conversation about something else, they will twist it around so it is about them.
Narcissists love to be the center of attention, so they naturally love to make everything about themselves. This is one common trait you will find when you are dating a narcissist.
They Are Very False Around Others
Another common trait you may notice is that your partner is very different when around other people compared to when you are both alone together. This is because they tend to be completely fake and will put on a false front to fool others.
For instance, you may find that when it is just the two of you, your partner is surly, controlling, and bad-tempered. However, when you are in a group or around others, they may suddenly become all smiles and laughter.
You Sense Their Jealousy
Typical narcissists are very envious people, and you will most likely see evidence of the green-eyed monster emerging. Often, this will be down to something you have achieved, as they will not like the thought of you bettering yourself.
When you achieve a goal such as passing an exam or even something like losing weight, your partner may appear faintly pleased for you or disinterested. However, in truth, they are most likely jealous, and this is something you will sense.
They Try to Control You
A very common sign of narcissism is someone that likes to control every aspect of your life, from your finances to your friends, what you do, and where you go. Some will even control what you wear and how you act.
At first, you will probably not be aware of the control, as the narcissist gains your trust and starts to control you over time. However, slowly and surely, they will start to try and control every last aspect of your life.
They Play the Victim
One of the other things that narcissists commonly do is to play the victim in any and every situation. Even when they are to blame for something, they will try to get you to believe it was someone else's fault – perhaps even your fault.
Narcissists hate taking the blame for anything and will manipulate situations to ensure they look like the victim and not the guilty party. They also love the attention and sympathy they get from playing the victim.
A Dangerous Breed
One thing to remember is that narcissists are a dangerous breed, so if you are dating a narcissist, you need to step back and take stock of your life. A narcissist will bring a toxic element to your relationship, and this is often difficult to overcome.