Choosing to date someone for a short period of time may seem like a viable option, but it may ultimately leave you feeling unsatisfied. Your goal is to find a long-term partner with whom you can spend your life, not just a temporary companion who will soon lose their appeal. Rather than wasting your time on individuals who are clearly not compatible with you, remain open to the possibility of finding someone with whom you can envision a future together.
1. What's the point?
There is no valid reason to go on a date that you dread and dislike, even if you try to convince yourself that it's better than being alone at home. In reality, indulging in ice cream and watching Netflix would likely be a more enjoyable and fulfilling experience. So, if you can't stand the idea of going on a date with someone, there's absolutely no justification for putting yourself through that discomfort.
2. Single's better than that torture
Being in a relationship with someone you don't genuinely care for is a unique form of torment. You try to feign interest, but it's apparent that you're disinterested. It may come as a surprise, but staying single would likely make you happier than subjecting yourself to this agony repeatedly.
3. You're just wasting everyone's time
Engaging in a relationship with someone you're not genuinely interested in isn't merely a waste of your time, but it's also a waste of the other person's time. It's possible that they may have developed feelings for you, and you're unintentionally leading them on. It's imperative to put an end to this pretense before it progresses any further. Alternatively, the best course of action would be to turn down the offer right from the beginning.
4. You'll hate dating even more
Do you find yourself groaning every time you prepare for a first date? Now, envision going out with people you're not genuinely interested in. It could cause you to despise dating ten times more, and no one would want to be around you on those days.
5. You could miss the right people
If you're occupied with dating anyone and everyone, including those you're not fond of, there's a chance that you're neglecting the people who could be the right match for you. After all, why would a decent person approach you when they see you with someone else?
6. You don't even give them a chance
When you enter a date with the preconceived notion that it's destined to fail, you've already made a judgment that the person isn't suitable for you. Although you may prolong the relationship for your own reasons, it's pointless to date someone when they didn't have a fair shot from the beginning. Moreover, seeking revenge isn't a legitimate motive for continuing to date someone whom you already decided is unsuitable.
7. It's not right using people
Absolutely correct. You're essentially taking advantage of these individuals to evade loneliness or to project an image of being exceedingly occupied and in-demand. How would you react if you were in their shoes? It would undoubtedly infuriate you and hurt you deeply.
8. Do something better with your time
It's time to find a new hobby. Dating numerous individuals you have no interest in is a colossal waste of time. Instead, consider taking up a new hobby, such as learning a foreign language, enrolling in dance classes (you may even come across some attractive singles), or trying out yoga in the park. Pursuing an alternative activity is better than going on an endless series of disappointing and pointless dates.
9. It's not going to magically work
If you didn't feel any attraction or connection on the first, fifth, or twentieth date, what makes you believe things will magically change if you continue to try? While it's admirable that you want to put in that much effort, if there's no chemistry after one or two dates, it's best to let go and move on.
10. You don't owe anyone a date
It's essential not to allow your friends and family to pressure you into dating someone you don't like. The same goes for individuals whom you're not interested in but are asking you out. You are under no obligation to go out on a date with anyone at any point in time. By doing so, you're just squandering your valuable time.
11. You're killing your confidence
If you consistently end relationships and feel less confident each time, it's likely because you are not investing your time and energy into the right people. You may find yourself constantly wondering why you cannot find someone who you genuinely enjoy being with. However, the truth is that you may be purposely spending too much time on the wrong individuals.
12. You'll end up trying to fake love
This dating strategy is prevalent among individuals addicted to the idea of love. Despite lacking genuine interest in their partner, they attempt to feign emotions in the hopes of experiencing the thrill of being in a relationship. It's a game of creating a facade, but eventually, the illusion shatters into countless pieces, often at the most unexpected moments.
13. No one wants that many failed relationships
It's common to experience bad dates occasionally, but persisting in a relationship with someone you don't genuinely like will likely result in a string of unsuccessful romances. Is having numerous failed relationships within a short span of time truly what you desire? Surely not.
14. Don't you deserve to date someone you do like?
If you haven't come to this realization yet, let me tell you that you deserve to experience love and be loved in return. You deserve to have wonderful dates and connect with individuals who genuinely resonate with you. It may require patience, and you may not go on as many dates, but at the very least, you can enjoy yourself and find fulfillment in the process.