You know what your ideal man should be like. You have dreamed and fantasized about him for as long as you can remember. You know even his interests and hobbies, even though you have never met him.

At least you did, and then you met the guy you call the love of your life.

What’s he like? Is he anything like the man you pictured in your dreams?

Does he think only of himself? If you are in your right mind, you would want nothing to do with a selfish man.

You should not fall into the trap of falling for a man who only loves himself. And many girls make this mistake.

When you come to think about it, no girl would willingly let such a man into their lives.

Through charm and charisma, you become entangled with a guy you would not have touched with a nine-foot pole when you were choosing a life partner.

But don’t worry, if you fell for his charm and later realized you might have misjudged your apparent prince in shining armor, here are some ways to know the truth. 

With that, let’s have a look at 6 obvious signs that the man you are with is only using you.

1. When you get intimate, it is all about him

Sexual relations between the two of you are centered on him. As long as he is satisfied, he is happy. He does not give a damn whether or not you get the same satisfaction.

2. He couldn’t care less about your feelings 

You know this because he never asks how you feel. This goes to show that your emotional well-being is the least of his concerns. This goes hand-in-hand with a lack of interest in knowing who you really are.

3. He never really discusses your relationship status

Commitment is not a topic this man likes to broach. He seems averse to putting labels on the relationship, and it’s because he does not want the relationship to be official.

4. His life is a mystery

He has kept his life private. The man never tells you what is going on in his life, and it shows he is not so keen for you to be part of it. He deliberately denies you access because he is secretly waiting for the person he can share his life with. In the meantime, he is only using you.

5. He hardly chips in with the bills

He comfortably lets you take care of all the bills. He even goes as far as making you buy him expensive things. Even the dates are always at your expense. He assumes your financial support.

6. He still wants to see what’s out there

He keeps his options open because he does not see a future with you. All he wants is to exploit you as much as possible before moving on with someone else as soon as the chance presents itself.