While many have heard of the term "love at first sight," most people do not believe in it. This is likely because the concept appears to be focused solely on physical attraction, rather than the individual's character. Falling in love can take time, but occasionally, people experience a feeling that they were brought together by fate for a reason.
If you're unsure whether your partner is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with (which is completely normal to question), here are some ways to help you figure it out.
1. You don't hate each other's friends
The people someone chooses to spend time with can define them. If your partner consistently goes out with friends who brag about hook-ups, it's worth considering what he says about you when you're not around. Do they see you as a nag because they've never met you? If his stories make you uncomfortable, he may not be revealing his true self to you. While it's important to have occasional nights out with friends, be mindful of the company your partner keeps.
2. He won't try to change you
No relationship is without its flaws, and sometimes we have to choose our battles. However, if your partner criticizes you for crying at emotional commercials, it indicates that he finds your involuntary reaction annoying. The right partner will offer you support and understanding instead. In a long-term relationship, it's important to acknowledge that everyone has different backgrounds and experiences that shape their reactions and beliefs. While people may change over time, it's not something you can control. It's also important to respect each other's differences, such as political views.
3. He's respectful towards your family
While your family may have its quirks, the right partner won't force you to choose between them and him. Instead, he will make an effort to blend in and participate in your family traditions. He won't make you feel guilty about the travel involved in seeing your family, and will understand the importance of family to you. His attitude will be to grin and bear it.
4. He's your best friend
Healthy relationships are built on mutual friendship and respect. The right partner will be the person you want to share your good news with first and who will be there to support you during tough times. You can trust him with any secret, and you understand each other on a deep level. Together, you function as a team, and even mundane tasks, such as going to the bank, are enjoyable when you're together. The thought of splitting up with him is unimaginable because he's not just your boyfriend, but also your closest friend.
5. Your fights don't last longer than a few hours
It's common for couples to have disagreements and arguments. It's unrealistic to believe those who claim they've never fought with their partner. Maybe it's due to venting frustrations after a bad day, or feeling stressed over small things like forgetting to take the garbage out. However, the key is to avoid holding grudges and feeling remorseful about the fight. It's important to remember that everyone has flaws, and sometimes frustration can get the better of us. The right partner will understand this and move past the argument quickly.
6. You feel sexy in PJs around him
You don't need to break the bank on expensive lingerie to impress "The One". He finds you the most attractive when you're comfortable and true to yourself. While he may appreciate seeing you dressed up, he also cherishes the simple moments, like snuggling up to watch Netflix before bed. Regardless of what you're wearing, he always makes you feel loved and special.
7. He's supportive of your dreams
Many couples experience the challenge of long distance, especially during education or career changes. But "The One" always prioritizes the relationship and plans for a future that benefits both of you. Even if money is tight or you dream of going back to school, he'll find a way to support you. You have faith in the relationship to overcome any obstacle, and the idea of choosing between love and your own needs never even crosses your mind.
8. His vision of the future is clear
The ideal partner won't play games or say things they think you want to hear. They'll be clear about their vision for the future, including whether or not they want kids, their thoughts on marriage, and other important topics. When you meet "The One," it's important that you both share similar ideas and values. You shouldn't waste time trying to change their mind about important life decisions like having children. "The One" will be on the same page as you.
