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Is He Flirting Or Just Being Nice? How To Tell What His Intentions Are

Flirting can be both obvious and subtle. It may be difficult to distinguish between someone flirting and someone just being friendly. Signs of flirting include showing interest in your life, asking to hang out, and having a good time with you. However, it is important to note that these actions can also be indicative of a friendly relationship. The only definitive way to know if someone is flirting is to directly ask them or pay attention to their body language and overall behavior.

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1. He's always in your personal space

Does he move closer to you and make frequent physical contact when you're in groups together? This may indicate flirting, but it's important to consider the context of the physical touches. If they are within the bounds of a friendly relationship, such as those with work colleagues or family, then it's likely not flirting. However, if the touches are unusual for a platonic relationship, it could be a sign of romantic interest.

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2. He's overly excited to discover you share common interests

If you share common interests with him, such as both loving Germany or speaking German, or if he gets excited and tries to start a conversation about your shared interests, it could be a sign that he's trying to make a connection with you. However, it's important not to jump to conclusions and assume that it's "real love" just because of these coincidences.

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3. He slyly tries to get your number

If he directly asks for your number, it's a strong indication that he's interested in you. However, he may also try to be subtle by saying he wants to share a photo or concert tickets with you, as an excuse to get your number and contact you. Be aware that he may try to find any excuse to get in touch with you.

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4. He goes out of his way to talk to you

If he consistently chooses to talk to you at a social gathering with many other people, it's a strong indication that he's interested in you. If you find yourself spending a lot of time talking to him and ignoring other people in the group, it's a sign that you may have an admirer and may have developed a crush on him.

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5. He lowers his voice when talking to you

If a guy is flirting with you, he may use a low or hushed tone when speaking to you, which can create a sense of intimacy. This may be intentional, as it may require you to lean in closer or for him to lean in closer to you in order to hear him. He could be sharing something personal or a bit of gossip that he doesn't want to share with the group. This behavior is a sign that he's trying to create a sense of intimacy between you.

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6. He jokes about sex A lot

It's common for guys to talk and joke about sex, but it can come across as creepy when done with girls. However, playful banter, such as using double entendres or innuendos, or making comments about how long it's been since he's had sex, can be a sign of flirting. Pay attention to if he is trying to gauge your interest in sleeping with him, as it could be a sign that he is flirting with you.

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7. He teases you without being mean

This behavior is reminiscent of schoolyard dynamics, where a person may tease or pick on someone they like. If a guy teases you more than others in the group, it could be a sign that he's trying to get your attention and make you interact and laugh with him. However, it's important to note that teasing alone may not necessarily indicate flirting, but when combined with other signs, it could be an indication that he's interested in you.

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8. He's always smiling around you

A smile can be a sign of friendliness, but it can also indicate romantic interest. When someone is being polite, their smile may not reach their eyes and may appear forced. On the other hand, when a guy is interested in you, his smile will be genuine, reaching his eyes and accompanied by other indicators of engagement and interest. Pay attention to how engaged, interested, and involved he is when he is around you, as this can be a sign of romantic interest.

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9. He goes out of his way to do nice things for you

If a guy offers to help you with something like fixing your car or giving you guitar lessons without expecting anything in return, it could be a sign that he's interested in spending more time with you. This kind of behavior is not typical for someone who is just being friendly or nice, it is more likely a sign that he's flirting with you. Guys usually don't go out of their way for women without some kind of romantic interest.

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10. You catch him staring at you

If you notice that a guy is frequently glancing at you, both from a distance and when you're in close proximity, it could be a sign that he's interested in you. If he can't stop looking at you, it's likely that he's into you. Pay attention to the look in his eyes as it can reveal more than just friendship.

11. He tries to impress you

He might attempt to impress you by boasting or showing off, but be mindful of the difference between this behavior and that of someone who just likes to talk about themselves. A guy who is interested in you will be more subtle and strategic in trying to talk himself up, in order to gain your admiration without coming across as arrogant.

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12. He makes it a point to mention he's single

If you didn't ask him about his dating status but he volunteers the information that he's single and not seeing anyone, and he expresses his desire to be in a relationship with an amazing woman, he might be indicating that he sees you as that woman. He's indicating that he's open to getting involved in a relationship and waiting for the right person. It could be a sign that he thinks you might be the right person.

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What To Do When You Think A Guy Is Not Just Being Nice — He's Flirting With You

If you believe that a guy has a romantic interest in you, and both of you are single and dating is a possibility, you can consider pursuing a relationship with him. Here are some tips to get started:

1. Flirt back a bit

If you're interested in a guy who is flirting with you, you can flirt back as a way to show your interest and have fun. This can be a great way to let him know that you're aware of his flirting and that you're receptive to it. Flirting back can also encourage him to take things to the next level. However, it's important to be mindful of your own boundaries and ensure that you're comfortable with the level of flirting before engaging in it.

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2. Try and get to know him better

Flirting can be enjoyable, but to truly get to know someone and potentially move beyond that stage, it's important to have deeper conversations and learn more about their interests, ambitions, and background. Ask him about his hobbies, where he grew up, and what he does in his free time. These conversations can help you understand more about who he is and what makes him tick. It's important to not just rely on flirting to understand a person, but to get to know them on a deeper level.

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3. Ask him to hang out

If you're hesitant to spend one-on-one time with him, consider inviting him to hang out in a group setting. This can ease any pressure and give you the chance to see how you interact in person. It may even reveal a strong connection between the two of you despite others being present.

4. See if you have actual chemistry

Flirting is enjoyable, but it's not a foundation for a lasting relationship. It's important to determine if you and the person have a compatible relationship and if there's potential for something deeper. This way, if there isn't a deeper connection, you can end things without wasting time.

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5. Tell him you want to date

If you believe you have a strong connection and your feelings for him are becoming stronger, it's time to take action. You don't have to wait for him to make a move. Express your feelings to him and ask him on a date. Make it clear that your intentions are romantic. This will give him the opportunity to decide if he feels the same way or not. If things don't work out, at least you know, but there's also a chance that you'll be on your way to a new relationship.

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If He's Flirting With You And You Really Wish He Wasn't

Handling this situation may be uncomfortable, but it can be resolved quickly and easily. Follow these steps:

1. Don't give him false hope

While flirting can be enjoyable, it's important to remember that it involves someone's emotions. If you're not interested in a romantic relationship with the person, avoid flirting with them and giving them false hope. It is unfair and unnecessary to lead someone on. Be mindful of your actions and avoid doing anything that could give the person the wrong idea.

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2. Distance yourself a bit

If you have a professional or social connection with this person, try to limit your interactions with him for a period of time. This sends the message that you're not interested and allows him to move on from his feelings. It will also benefit you both in the long run.

3. Talk about dating other people

Bringing up dating other people, even if you're not actually dating anyone, may seem trivial, but it can be a more gentle way of communicating that you're not interested in him romantically. It also sends the message that you're not available, and he will likely get the hint and move on, rather than having an uncomfortable conversation about your lack of interest in him.

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4. Avoid hanging out with him on your own

It's best to avoid spending time alone with him if he has feelings for you that you don't share. This can prevent any uncomfortable situations. If you must be in the same place, try to ensure that it's in a group setting. This way, you won't be put in an uncomfortable situation.

5. If all else fails, tell him straight up that you're not into him

If you've tried other methods and he still doesn't understand your lack of interest, it may be necessary to have a direct conversation with him. Express that you're not interested in him romantically. Although it may be uncomfortable, it's important to address the situation as soon as possible to avoid prolonging any confusion or false hope.

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